SomeoneSomewhere
Well-known member
- Joined
- Apr 30, 2013
- Messages
- 115
- Reaction score
- 0
Before you start telling me that I'm an a-hole, let me explain.
All through my childhood, I haven't been attracted to a lot of girls. And the ones that I have been attracted to, I would automatically assume that they are "out of my league" because they would already be getting a lot of attention from other guys.
So I have missed my most important developmental years when the people see the world around them, realizes what they like, etc.
I'm all for the person inside and the inner-person theory but when you see someone new, it is their appearance that attracts you to them, right?
So now, when I see a not-so-attractive girl, I just don't bother even if deep inside, I feel like I'd want to be (or I could be) friends with her. Now, I don't have really high standards (I don't think I have any standards) but when I see a attractive girl (now, attractive doesn't specifically mean good looking, they'd just be the ones that I like (a lot of the times, far from the conventionally beautiful ones)), I just assume that I'm too ugly for them and I don't even look at them - judging both me and the girl at the same time. I don't know, I feel like some of those girls could be beautiful on the inside too.
And there are the ones who I'm intimidated by really easily (this happens with almost every girl but still...). It could be because of a strong personality trait, looks and anything else in the world.
So I know I'm not trying to be shallow, I just am. Does anyone here know how to solve this?
All through my childhood, I haven't been attracted to a lot of girls. And the ones that I have been attracted to, I would automatically assume that they are "out of my league" because they would already be getting a lot of attention from other guys.
So I have missed my most important developmental years when the people see the world around them, realizes what they like, etc.
I'm all for the person inside and the inner-person theory but when you see someone new, it is their appearance that attracts you to them, right?
So now, when I see a not-so-attractive girl, I just don't bother even if deep inside, I feel like I'd want to be (or I could be) friends with her. Now, I don't have really high standards (I don't think I have any standards) but when I see a attractive girl (now, attractive doesn't specifically mean good looking, they'd just be the ones that I like (a lot of the times, far from the conventionally beautiful ones)), I just assume that I'm too ugly for them and I don't even look at them - judging both me and the girl at the same time. I don't know, I feel like some of those girls could be beautiful on the inside too.
And there are the ones who I'm intimidated by really easily (this happens with almost every girl but still...). It could be because of a strong personality trait, looks and anything else in the world.
So I know I'm not trying to be shallow, I just am. Does anyone here know how to solve this?