Doubt The Rabbit
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Reading many of the threads here over the past couple of years and having made friends who have gone through cycles of relationships and loneliness, I guess this is what I want to say, that it is okay to be alone sometimes.
It's okay to be by yourself. It's okay to back out of a relationship that isn't working out. It's okay to stop being friends. It's okay to put someone on ignore. Don't be afraid of being alone. It only means you are afraid of yourself. Instead, I wonder what would happen if many people here stopped worrying about "loneliness" and just learned to enjoy their own company. Do things they want to do, spur of the moment, because they have no one else around to get in their way.
I find that sometimes the problem is that a lot of us aren't truly alone. We're just surrounded by people we don't want to deal with. They influence our lives but do not provide any enjoyment. In that case, perhaps the answer is to become alone. Perhaps in solitude one can find freedom - freedom to cultivate a sense of self worth and purpose.
Perhaps with a little bit of self worth some of us would quit pining for "any woman" or "any man" to pay them a sliver of attention and stop making the mistake of being strung along by the wrong people and getting hurt in the process. Perhaps some of us would find that there are more important things in life than "not being single."
It may not be the solution for everyone, but perhaps it's an idea that should be honestly considered.
It's okay to be by yourself. It's okay to back out of a relationship that isn't working out. It's okay to stop being friends. It's okay to put someone on ignore. Don't be afraid of being alone. It only means you are afraid of yourself. Instead, I wonder what would happen if many people here stopped worrying about "loneliness" and just learned to enjoy their own company. Do things they want to do, spur of the moment, because they have no one else around to get in their way.
I find that sometimes the problem is that a lot of us aren't truly alone. We're just surrounded by people we don't want to deal with. They influence our lives but do not provide any enjoyment. In that case, perhaps the answer is to become alone. Perhaps in solitude one can find freedom - freedom to cultivate a sense of self worth and purpose.
Perhaps with a little bit of self worth some of us would quit pining for "any woman" or "any man" to pay them a sliver of attention and stop making the mistake of being strung along by the wrong people and getting hurt in the process. Perhaps some of us would find that there are more important things in life than "not being single."
It may not be the solution for everyone, but perhaps it's an idea that should be honestly considered.
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