How does one get into a relationship? Seriously? I am in my late twenties and have had only one proper girlfriend years ago. I never seem to be anything other than a stranger to people. In my mid teens I was picked on at school because I came from the countryside and they all lived in the town and knew each-other from primary school so I've always been the outsider and very shy but after I finished school I got more confident and my late teens and very early twenties looked good but the last few years I've regressed.
When I had a girlfriend I was out doing stuff so I met lots of people. Some of them were attractive women who flirted with me. I couldn't do anything really because I was supposedly in a "good" relationship and my girlfriend would be standing next to me frowning at me. As soon as we split up I became a bit depressed and didn't find anyone attractive unless they fit the model of my ex-girlfriend so in hindsight I probably wasted a lot of opportunities. I was living in a city at the time and if I'd been more positive I could have found another girlfriend but I kept putting things off and doing the easiest thing.
At the moment I live in a rural area and everyone is either a kid or middle aged. I would say I have been at times very socially awkward but now I know nothing is ever going to happen so I don't give a fresia anymore. Do you remember when you first went out to pubs when you were 17 or slightly older if you're reading in America?
And you thought "I could get laid. It could happen. Now that I'm not in the confines of the school social structure but in a pub with alcohol and people that don't know how unpopular I am at school, it could happen". But it never did.
I look almost exactly the same as I did when I was 20. Women are just not interested in me. Even if a girl starts to talk to me it doesn't take her long to figure out I'm not that happy with my life. I'm too self-deprecating. I have a skilled but manual labor type job which I'm not really suited to. I don't fit in with the other people who work as tradesmen. I would rather do something intelligent but I messed up my education by hating school so much.
I go out on my own occasionally, but its deppressing and there has to be some kind of thing to focus on like a band. I couldn't just go to a bar on my own. If there was ever a time when being the mysterious loner was cool then it certainly isn't now.
I don't want to approach women and start talking to them when I feel like my life's a bit of a mess. I haven't got it together so I'm not going to waste their time but if someone starts talking to ME then I always find some way to fresia that up as well. I think I am sexually paranoid. When I'm at home alone I want sex. When I'm out at night, I hate it and want to be on my own and can't imagine being charming enough to meet someone and remain in touch. GOd knows how people manage to drink a lot and then have sex with someone they've just met.
I didn't used to care about being single but its gone on so long and for the most part I haven't been having any sex or dating if you want to call it that. Aside from the fact that I hate my job, I am honeysuckle at keeping in touch with scattered friends I may have and I haven't had a girlfriend for years, I'm not actually that bad. I'm outdoorsy, quite funny, I have a lot to talk about and I care about other people. I just don't know how people end up together. I'm not faddy, not on Facebook or twitter. I don't dress like a popstar or a pick up artist. I just wear jeans that fit properly and shirts and I have a Jesse Eisenberg hairstyle that I've had for about 10 years. I'm less than six foot tall but only slightly. And despite the ranting nature of this post my attitude to women or just other people in general isn't terrible. I don't blame women for my trouble, I know deep down that things just haven't fallen into place for me. I'm just a slightly cynical, frustrated working class man under 30. At about my age everyone seems to be settling into relationships. I don't envy them for I wouldn't want their exact lives but at the same time life isn't really living when you do everything on your own.
I want to have memories of driving around the countryside laughing and enjoying weekends with a girlfriend or drinking at night with someone that I haven't just met. Listening to good music with someone. Having sex to the point where I am no longer paranoid because I haven't done it for ages but just really comfortable and confident.
How do some people just breeze through life and relationships and other people are messed up?
When I had a girlfriend I was out doing stuff so I met lots of people. Some of them were attractive women who flirted with me. I couldn't do anything really because I was supposedly in a "good" relationship and my girlfriend would be standing next to me frowning at me. As soon as we split up I became a bit depressed and didn't find anyone attractive unless they fit the model of my ex-girlfriend so in hindsight I probably wasted a lot of opportunities. I was living in a city at the time and if I'd been more positive I could have found another girlfriend but I kept putting things off and doing the easiest thing.
At the moment I live in a rural area and everyone is either a kid or middle aged. I would say I have been at times very socially awkward but now I know nothing is ever going to happen so I don't give a fresia anymore. Do you remember when you first went out to pubs when you were 17 or slightly older if you're reading in America?
And you thought "I could get laid. It could happen. Now that I'm not in the confines of the school social structure but in a pub with alcohol and people that don't know how unpopular I am at school, it could happen". But it never did.
I look almost exactly the same as I did when I was 20. Women are just not interested in me. Even if a girl starts to talk to me it doesn't take her long to figure out I'm not that happy with my life. I'm too self-deprecating. I have a skilled but manual labor type job which I'm not really suited to. I don't fit in with the other people who work as tradesmen. I would rather do something intelligent but I messed up my education by hating school so much.
I go out on my own occasionally, but its deppressing and there has to be some kind of thing to focus on like a band. I couldn't just go to a bar on my own. If there was ever a time when being the mysterious loner was cool then it certainly isn't now.
I don't want to approach women and start talking to them when I feel like my life's a bit of a mess. I haven't got it together so I'm not going to waste their time but if someone starts talking to ME then I always find some way to fresia that up as well. I think I am sexually paranoid. When I'm at home alone I want sex. When I'm out at night, I hate it and want to be on my own and can't imagine being charming enough to meet someone and remain in touch. GOd knows how people manage to drink a lot and then have sex with someone they've just met.
I didn't used to care about being single but its gone on so long and for the most part I haven't been having any sex or dating if you want to call it that. Aside from the fact that I hate my job, I am honeysuckle at keeping in touch with scattered friends I may have and I haven't had a girlfriend for years, I'm not actually that bad. I'm outdoorsy, quite funny, I have a lot to talk about and I care about other people. I just don't know how people end up together. I'm not faddy, not on Facebook or twitter. I don't dress like a popstar or a pick up artist. I just wear jeans that fit properly and shirts and I have a Jesse Eisenberg hairstyle that I've had for about 10 years. I'm less than six foot tall but only slightly. And despite the ranting nature of this post my attitude to women or just other people in general isn't terrible. I don't blame women for my trouble, I know deep down that things just haven't fallen into place for me. I'm just a slightly cynical, frustrated working class man under 30. At about my age everyone seems to be settling into relationships. I don't envy them for I wouldn't want their exact lives but at the same time life isn't really living when you do everything on your own.
I want to have memories of driving around the countryside laughing and enjoying weekends with a girlfriend or drinking at night with someone that I haven't just met. Listening to good music with someone. Having sex to the point where I am no longer paranoid because I haven't done it for ages but just really comfortable and confident.
How do some people just breeze through life and relationships and other people are messed up?