Hey guys, I’m back with another question, and I’m hoping you guys can help me out once again! (You guys are great!)
I recently got back in touch with a friend of mine that I haven’t seen or heard from in a couple years. I always liked her, and had a feeling she liked me too… but nothing became of it. I never asked, or took it any further.
Fast forward to 2014, and after getting back in touch, we made plans to hang out. Originally, the plan was to hang out at on a certain date, but things had to be pushed back. This is when I’m told by her, that if I ever want to come over to her place later, that would be fine, and she’d really like that.
After seeing that I automatically hoped for the best, and was hoping that she had some interest in me. Reason being, usually most people don’t invite other people to their house, if they really don’t like them, or feel comfortable. Since we hadn’t talked or seen each other in so long, I was hoping this.
So, we finally set on a certain day, to have me meet up with her at her place. As I’m getting ready to go up to see her, she messages me.
Here’s what she said. (I want to try and keep her message as vague, and reword it as much as possible for her privacy.)
-She starts off by saying that she indeed does like me (sexual way)
-Then, right after that, she tells me that she’s been seeing someone for the past year, but that they’re not in a relationship, only because of the distance between them.
-She states that if it wasn’t for the distance issue, then they would be together.
-She then begins to tell me “I didn’t even want to think of this as a date until today. But I can’t really pretend I don’t sort of like you.” Because of this, she says this is causing her to have some anxiety. (Presumably she is uncertain of what to do or who to go with?)
-Goes on to tell me that she’s never cheated on anyone she’s been with (which I really commend a lot!)
- Then towards the end, this kind of caught my attention. She says that she would still like to hang out with me, and shortly thereafter she says, “who knows, maybe we’ll be really bored with each other. “
-She states that she doesn’t even know if I find her attractive.
-Finally, she says if I still want to hang out, then we can. But she was going to be late.
When I received that message, I was not expecting it. So I was trying to find the best way to reply to that. I was rushed since I was taking so long to respond. (About 5mins.)
I did not go into it as much as I wanted to. But I basically said that I liked her too.
I really wanted to say that I was so glad the feeling is mutual, but I was concerned, because she said she felt anxiety since she’s seeing someone else. I did not want to cause anything else.
We did end up hanging out that day. To be honest, I think that day went EXTREMELY well. I had a great time, and I could tell she did too! She seemed eager to hang out again, by letting me know we should do another thing soon in a couple of weeks. She even sent me a text the same night after I got home too.
While we were hanging out that day, I wanted to bring up what was said in the text, but I never did. She however, did. Asking me “so you liked me since xTH grade?”. I replied yes, and that was pretty much it. I knew that was a perfect chance to go into it further, but she continued talking, and I didn’t want to dwell on it for too long, in fear that I might say something wrong, and upset her.
One thing to note is that, she did offer me to sleep over for the night, if I was too tired to drive back home. (It was about 45mins away from my place.) From my point of view, I don’t think this offer was made in a manner where it would have been obvious that she wanted to sleep with me. I honestly think she was just offering me to sleep there, since I was yawning quite a bit. But I don’t know, I cannot ever tell when a girl means what she says, even if it’s extremely blatant, unless they say exactly what they mean.
So I have a lot of questions to ask, and I’m hoping someone can help. I’ve been feeling quite upset, unsure or depressed, (I don’t even know…) after leaving her place, thinking about her a lot.
1. After reading my story, should I even try to get with her? Does it seem like she wants to try something with me, but is holding back due to the other person?
Honestly, I would say no to this question, because she states that if the distance between them was not an issue that they would be together. But the other things she mentioned in the text message afterword’s, make me unsure… :/
2. Should I even ask her more about the message she sent, and her situation? I feel there are too many questions that I’d like to be answered. So if I should ask her… when?
3. Do I let her know how glad I am that the feelings are mutual? I’m afraid I did not make this clear enough to her.
4. I really want to message her, but I’m not sure what exactly to say. So I wanted to run it by you guys first. Again, I’d like to ask her more about what’s going on.
I’m sorry for such a long post again, but I’m hoping someone can take the time to read, and understand my story, and help me with this problem!
I recently got back in touch with a friend of mine that I haven’t seen or heard from in a couple years. I always liked her, and had a feeling she liked me too… but nothing became of it. I never asked, or took it any further.
Fast forward to 2014, and after getting back in touch, we made plans to hang out. Originally, the plan was to hang out at on a certain date, but things had to be pushed back. This is when I’m told by her, that if I ever want to come over to her place later, that would be fine, and she’d really like that.
After seeing that I automatically hoped for the best, and was hoping that she had some interest in me. Reason being, usually most people don’t invite other people to their house, if they really don’t like them, or feel comfortable. Since we hadn’t talked or seen each other in so long, I was hoping this.
So, we finally set on a certain day, to have me meet up with her at her place. As I’m getting ready to go up to see her, she messages me.
Here’s what she said. (I want to try and keep her message as vague, and reword it as much as possible for her privacy.)
-She starts off by saying that she indeed does like me (sexual way)
-Then, right after that, she tells me that she’s been seeing someone for the past year, but that they’re not in a relationship, only because of the distance between them.
-She states that if it wasn’t for the distance issue, then they would be together.
-She then begins to tell me “I didn’t even want to think of this as a date until today. But I can’t really pretend I don’t sort of like you.” Because of this, she says this is causing her to have some anxiety. (Presumably she is uncertain of what to do or who to go with?)
-Goes on to tell me that she’s never cheated on anyone she’s been with (which I really commend a lot!)
- Then towards the end, this kind of caught my attention. She says that she would still like to hang out with me, and shortly thereafter she says, “who knows, maybe we’ll be really bored with each other. “
-She states that she doesn’t even know if I find her attractive.
-Finally, she says if I still want to hang out, then we can. But she was going to be late.
When I received that message, I was not expecting it. So I was trying to find the best way to reply to that. I was rushed since I was taking so long to respond. (About 5mins.)
I did not go into it as much as I wanted to. But I basically said that I liked her too.
I really wanted to say that I was so glad the feeling is mutual, but I was concerned, because she said she felt anxiety since she’s seeing someone else. I did not want to cause anything else.
We did end up hanging out that day. To be honest, I think that day went EXTREMELY well. I had a great time, and I could tell she did too! She seemed eager to hang out again, by letting me know we should do another thing soon in a couple of weeks. She even sent me a text the same night after I got home too.
While we were hanging out that day, I wanted to bring up what was said in the text, but I never did. She however, did. Asking me “so you liked me since xTH grade?”. I replied yes, and that was pretty much it. I knew that was a perfect chance to go into it further, but she continued talking, and I didn’t want to dwell on it for too long, in fear that I might say something wrong, and upset her.
One thing to note is that, she did offer me to sleep over for the night, if I was too tired to drive back home. (It was about 45mins away from my place.) From my point of view, I don’t think this offer was made in a manner where it would have been obvious that she wanted to sleep with me. I honestly think she was just offering me to sleep there, since I was yawning quite a bit. But I don’t know, I cannot ever tell when a girl means what she says, even if it’s extremely blatant, unless they say exactly what they mean.
So I have a lot of questions to ask, and I’m hoping someone can help. I’ve been feeling quite upset, unsure or depressed, (I don’t even know…) after leaving her place, thinking about her a lot.
1. After reading my story, should I even try to get with her? Does it seem like she wants to try something with me, but is holding back due to the other person?
Honestly, I would say no to this question, because she states that if the distance between them was not an issue that they would be together. But the other things she mentioned in the text message afterword’s, make me unsure… :/
2. Should I even ask her more about the message she sent, and her situation? I feel there are too many questions that I’d like to be answered. So if I should ask her… when?
3. Do I let her know how glad I am that the feelings are mutual? I’m afraid I did not make this clear enough to her.
4. I really want to message her, but I’m not sure what exactly to say. So I wanted to run it by you guys first. Again, I’d like to ask her more about what’s going on.
I’m sorry for such a long post again, but I’m hoping someone can take the time to read, and understand my story, and help me with this problem!
