h3donist
Well-known member
I've been posting on here for several days now and one thing that has struck me is the amount of people who say they have literally nobody in their lives, no family, no friends, nothing.
It got me thinking, do I belong here? After all I am married to a beautiful girl (something it seems that about 80% of posts here are longing for!) I have a few friends and lots of online and offline acquaintances and a family, albeit they live a long way away, I can still reach them in about 4 hours of driving and I could call then whenever I like. So should I really be feeling lonely when I have a support network like that behind me?
Well I do - I feel as lonely as hell. Don't get me wrong I am grateful for my loved ones, and I love them all dearly and see them as often as I can (which isn't that often) but the empty feeling of loneliness still eats away at me. When you break down my situation, things become clearer. I work in a busy office but I am the only IT technician, meaning I have nobody to talk to in between jobs. My best friend runs her own business so she rarely has time to see me, I don't often have the petrol money to visit my family. It's never a black and white situation.
Which brings me to the conclusion that it doesn't matter how many friends, or family, or work colleagues or lovers you may or may not have - loneliness can still be a huge part of our lives. It also shows that, from the outside, even the most seemingly popular people can still be lonely, so envying others who may seem to be surrounded by people or have their dream girl or boy in the arms is utterly futile. Like the Baz Luhrman song "Everybody's Free (To Wear Sunscreen)" says "don't waste your time with jealousy; sometimes you're ahead, sometimes you're behind. The race is long, and in the end, it's only with yourself"
So while I feel for the people on here who have nobody, it's worth remembering that everybody can and often are touched by loneliness. Joining this site is a good start to find help and support - after all I wonder about the countless thousands who live with loneliness but don't even know forums such as this exist. There seems such a lovely wide range of people here, men and women of all ages that are making that first step in dealing with their feelings and reaching out to find others. I hope that everybody here finds what they are looking for, be it companionship, love, friendship and happiness.
Finally I'd love to talk to people privately - I know this bit should be in the networking section but if anyone wants to chat to me about anything other than sport (I know nothing about it!) then please PM me
Love you all
h3donist
It got me thinking, do I belong here? After all I am married to a beautiful girl (something it seems that about 80% of posts here are longing for!) I have a few friends and lots of online and offline acquaintances and a family, albeit they live a long way away, I can still reach them in about 4 hours of driving and I could call then whenever I like. So should I really be feeling lonely when I have a support network like that behind me?
Well I do - I feel as lonely as hell. Don't get me wrong I am grateful for my loved ones, and I love them all dearly and see them as often as I can (which isn't that often) but the empty feeling of loneliness still eats away at me. When you break down my situation, things become clearer. I work in a busy office but I am the only IT technician, meaning I have nobody to talk to in between jobs. My best friend runs her own business so she rarely has time to see me, I don't often have the petrol money to visit my family. It's never a black and white situation.
Which brings me to the conclusion that it doesn't matter how many friends, or family, or work colleagues or lovers you may or may not have - loneliness can still be a huge part of our lives. It also shows that, from the outside, even the most seemingly popular people can still be lonely, so envying others who may seem to be surrounded by people or have their dream girl or boy in the arms is utterly futile. Like the Baz Luhrman song "Everybody's Free (To Wear Sunscreen)" says "don't waste your time with jealousy; sometimes you're ahead, sometimes you're behind. The race is long, and in the end, it's only with yourself"
So while I feel for the people on here who have nobody, it's worth remembering that everybody can and often are touched by loneliness. Joining this site is a good start to find help and support - after all I wonder about the countless thousands who live with loneliness but don't even know forums such as this exist. There seems such a lovely wide range of people here, men and women of all ages that are making that first step in dealing with their feelings and reaching out to find others. I hope that everybody here finds what they are looking for, be it companionship, love, friendship and happiness.
Finally I'd love to talk to people privately - I know this bit should be in the networking section but if anyone wants to chat to me about anything other than sport (I know nothing about it!) then please PM me
Love you all
h3donist