ladyforsaken said:
Aisha said:
Batman55 said:
Oldyoung said:
Either the women want someone confident for all things akin to a "quick fix". I'm not confident. I know from experience women find me either unattractive, or creepy and stupid (if I get a chance to interact) I just have nothing to offer, and with that there's nowhere to take confidence from.
Nobody has "nothing" to offer, though. It's that thinking that's your problem more than anything else.
Also, this. You aren't any of the adjectives you've used OY. But if you keep thinking it, you'll definitely face problems.
+1
This. I see this in my country as well. Wherever I go. People in my age (20's) do not understand the meaning of 'love', these days. They think a relationship, or 'love', means you have a partner you can snog, have sex with, play with, and so forth. While, real,
true love goes way beyond that. People focus on the wrong aspects of a 'relationship' nowadays. I can honestly say that a lot of people I encounter say they have relationships, but in truth, it is nowhere near a real relationship, nowhere near real love.
Of course, real relationships and real love do not have a written definition, and experiences and expectations can be different for anybody, but the current generation ('quickie' generation, as Aisha said) has the most narrow-minded ideas. Call me old-fashioned, even though I am also from 'this' generation, I would prefer things in the old ways. I find real love, respect, and deep admiration for eachother way more important than having sex, etc. Of course, I would love to have sex with someone, especially since I am still a virgin. However, I value true friendships, and true love (and love also exists in friendships where the other is not your 'partner'!) above all else. No sex or anything of the sort has to be involved, in my opinion, whereas nowadays ... look at it. It's going from 'bad to worse'.
Tinder, second love, Ashley Madison.. nowadays, there eve are people and websites advocating adultery nowadays. Where has the value gone?
People are more often than not seen as toys, to be acquired and discarded to some people's whim and the only thing a lot of people look at are their 'attributes'. Deeper interests are hard to find, in most circles. It's disgusting and infuriating. I want something real, not something shallow-minded which just offers some vague form of fleeting contentness. Will I ever find it? I think not. I myself do not have much confidence either, and I often want to get to know people much better (I have to, if I real love even has a chance to develop in me).