BlackCat
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Title says it all. I haven't known her for long (about 6 months) and this happened about 2 years ago. After it happened she basically couldn't and still cannot think about anything else. She lost all of her self esteem... She thinks she is a bad person. Just overall depressed. She had been talking to a guy for about 4 years over the net from England. They got to liking each other and met up 2 years ago. One night he snuck in and they wanted to fool around. He wasn't supposed to have snuck in to do anything. He wanted to have sex with her and she wasn't ready. So the ******* did it anyway. There was nothing she could have done, her parents are psychopaths I swear... So she couldn't scream or anything. She had to take it.
Afterwards he wouldn't quit trying to talk to her.
But things get more interesting. I got to know her through my best friend, who is trying to initiate a relationship. She "isn't ready" for another relationship, but they both have feelings for each other. I think the only way to resolve this is for them to get in a relationship and for him to prove he won't betray her like the rapist did. It's pretty much all my friend can think about all the time. She won't even kiss when she is around people. Not even around me, and we are all close to each other. She wasn't like this before the crime keep in mind.
I have told her to get rid of anything and everything that reminds her of him. An example is a belt she wears that he gave her. I have NO IDEA why she would still have that. He also gave her an engagement ring (what a *******) the day before the act I'm pretty sure. Once I get my license back we are going to return that ring to get rid of it. For no reason she can't stop thinking about him, even though she hates his guts.
So yeah. Does anyone have anything they can say? It really makes her uncomfortable to think about it, and talking about it isn't much better. She won't talk to other rape victims or get therapy because her parents would freak. Also her dad is weird and looks through the internet history. Plus he has the option to delete history behind a password only he knows. So she is out of luck when it comes to contacting other victims even if she wanted to.
Afterwards he wouldn't quit trying to talk to her.
But things get more interesting. I got to know her through my best friend, who is trying to initiate a relationship. She "isn't ready" for another relationship, but they both have feelings for each other. I think the only way to resolve this is for them to get in a relationship and for him to prove he won't betray her like the rapist did. It's pretty much all my friend can think about all the time. She won't even kiss when she is around people. Not even around me, and we are all close to each other. She wasn't like this before the crime keep in mind.
I have told her to get rid of anything and everything that reminds her of him. An example is a belt she wears that he gave her. I have NO IDEA why she would still have that. He also gave her an engagement ring (what a *******) the day before the act I'm pretty sure. Once I get my license back we are going to return that ring to get rid of it. For no reason she can't stop thinking about him, even though she hates his guts.
So yeah. Does anyone have anything they can say? It really makes her uncomfortable to think about it, and talking about it isn't much better. She won't talk to other rape victims or get therapy because her parents would freak. Also her dad is weird and looks through the internet history. Plus he has the option to delete history behind a password only he knows. So she is out of luck when it comes to contacting other victims even if she wanted to.