vfa6x
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I've recently gotten out of a long term and serious relationship. I'm actually not upset about it ending, we both agreed it was probably best. But after we broke up, I came to a few realizations. The first is I don't have many friends. Many of them have either moved away or simply faded away. I do have a couple of friends in the area still, but while they are good people I often find it hard to respect them. There's no one who I can really relate to, and no one would understand if I tried having this conversation with them.
I go to school and work at a nearby community college. I'm in my late 20s and almost a solid decade older than many people I meet there. It's really hard for me to call just about any of the people I know there my peer. They are all great people, don't get me wrong, but there are a lot of differences, namely in maturity. I feel that the odds of me meeting someone there who I can have a meaningful relationship with, friendship or more, is astronomically low.
I recently joined a dating site for the sole purpose of making new friends... and nothing more. I simply thought it would be a good way to meet new people. While I have made a new friend from it, I feel like that resource is kind of tapped out.
I'm a pretty introverted person, I always have been. I'm not particularly shy, and I'm generally easygoing when it comes to putting myself out there and meeting new people. I don't greatly care what people think of me, and I'm generally proud of who I am and have a fairly high level of confidence. When I say I'm introverted, what I mean is that I tend to recede within myself, especially when I'm stressed or depressed. I also have a tendency to neglect friendships because of this, and have lost a number of good friends over the years because of it.
What I want right now is someone I can spend time with, where we can relate well to each other, understand each other, and enjoy each other's company. I want to be close with someone, where we can be there for each other in bad times and good. I want to hold, and I want to be held. I know what I am describing really sounds like a relationship, but I don't think I want one so soon after my last. I want a truly close friend (or friends), and maybe if something developed from that I'd be okay with it down the road, but that's not my primary goal.
When I think about what I want, and how unlikely it is that I'll find it anytime soon, I get kind of depressed. I feel pretty alone most of the time, and I haven't found a good way to cope with it yet. I'm also not sure how much of it I really understand right now, a lot of what's going through my head are thoughts in progress, so sorry if this all seems somewhat confusing. Because I'm so introverted, my instinct is to just swallow it up and deal with it internally, but I know that's a bad move right now. I'm just not sure what to do, and I'm hoping that by saying something here others might have some insight. I know I wrote kind of a novel, and if you've made it this far then you are a trooper, but if anyone has any input, I'd love to hear it.
I go to school and work at a nearby community college. I'm in my late 20s and almost a solid decade older than many people I meet there. It's really hard for me to call just about any of the people I know there my peer. They are all great people, don't get me wrong, but there are a lot of differences, namely in maturity. I feel that the odds of me meeting someone there who I can have a meaningful relationship with, friendship or more, is astronomically low.
I recently joined a dating site for the sole purpose of making new friends... and nothing more. I simply thought it would be a good way to meet new people. While I have made a new friend from it, I feel like that resource is kind of tapped out.
I'm a pretty introverted person, I always have been. I'm not particularly shy, and I'm generally easygoing when it comes to putting myself out there and meeting new people. I don't greatly care what people think of me, and I'm generally proud of who I am and have a fairly high level of confidence. When I say I'm introverted, what I mean is that I tend to recede within myself, especially when I'm stressed or depressed. I also have a tendency to neglect friendships because of this, and have lost a number of good friends over the years because of it.
What I want right now is someone I can spend time with, where we can relate well to each other, understand each other, and enjoy each other's company. I want to be close with someone, where we can be there for each other in bad times and good. I want to hold, and I want to be held. I know what I am describing really sounds like a relationship, but I don't think I want one so soon after my last. I want a truly close friend (or friends), and maybe if something developed from that I'd be okay with it down the road, but that's not my primary goal.
When I think about what I want, and how unlikely it is that I'll find it anytime soon, I get kind of depressed. I feel pretty alone most of the time, and I haven't found a good way to cope with it yet. I'm also not sure how much of it I really understand right now, a lot of what's going through my head are thoughts in progress, so sorry if this all seems somewhat confusing. Because I'm so introverted, my instinct is to just swallow it up and deal with it internally, but I know that's a bad move right now. I'm just not sure what to do, and I'm hoping that by saying something here others might have some insight. I know I wrote kind of a novel, and if you've made it this far then you are a trooper, but if anyone has any input, I'd love to hear it.
