thefunkman
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This is what one woman replied to my question on why as a 19 year old attractive male, girls only want to hook up with me and lose interest when they realize im not the badboy people too often assume be to be.
A few possibilities:
1) You get committed too quickly - that in itself is more than a little scary.
2) Agreeing with everything highly implies that you don't have a stand in anything. The Churchill quote is relevant: "You have enemies? Good. That means you've stood up for something, sometime in your life."
3)Treat girls as human beings, not priceless whitewashed relics. This includes disagreeing sometimes; and if you really do have a great joy in helping others, you might want to bring that up to them. Show that you have passion, including helping others; if you work with animals, for example, talk about how much you love animals, your volunteer work, and how you feel things could be better.
This is my response
See that is the most ridiculous thing. This is the kind of thing that makes me mad. First of all I get committed too quickly. So putting yourself in a position where you are loyal to your desire is bad?
Second I never said I agree with everything. I am easy going. HUGE HUGE HUGE difference. This is why i get mad when people are like nice guys are not confident blah blah blah. Just because I disagree does not mean I will voice the fact. If it is petty and would make her happy sure why not, i agree. Now if it is something like she says "i hate dogs" i would be pretty upset. I would say well i fuckin love dogs. POINT BLANK PERIOD. Being nice means you do not make problems out of things that can be ignored with no negative results. I feel bad for the people who still do not understand what many of us nice guys are. Just open minded.
Third, treat women like relics blah blah? WTF? Your whole post is really upsetting to be honest. It just shows how misguided women are when they meet nice men. In my mind what I see is i treat women like human being. You know who else i treat like a human being? me, you, we, us, everyone. And to me, humans are pretty ******* priceless "whitewashed relics".
So please, before you assume a nice guy is insincere, lacks confidence, and needs approval, consider the possibility that he is just open minded, easy going person, willing to listen to the likes, dislikes, faults and gifts of just about anyone, and you however are not. Don't think you are so special. I mean, you are. But to us nice guys you are just as special as everyone else to us, which is very special, but you are not better than anyone.
And remember one thing always fellow nice guys. I am easy going but one of my believes is in karma. So keep being nice!
They say nice guys finish last.... Who is the last guy a woman dates? Her husband
Now I notice I see a lot of people either bashing nice guys, or nice guys bashing themselves and feeling bad for themselves. Well its about time to change that if you ask me. Use this as a place to say what you like about being a nice guy, or what you like about nice guys. Im a glass half full kind of guy, I try to see the good in things. I know it helps me, mabye it will help you to stop dwelling on the bad and falling into the streotype of "to be a nice guy you must also lack confidence" and what not. When people say those things you just lose more confidence. I know, us nice guys care what people think. Why? because we are nice and we want other people to be happy also. NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT. BUT... shake off the haters, the close minded, and the immature.
SHOW YOUR TRUE COLORS AND WHY YOU LOVE NICE GUYS OR BEING ONE!
A few possibilities:
1) You get committed too quickly - that in itself is more than a little scary.
2) Agreeing with everything highly implies that you don't have a stand in anything. The Churchill quote is relevant: "You have enemies? Good. That means you've stood up for something, sometime in your life."
3)Treat girls as human beings, not priceless whitewashed relics. This includes disagreeing sometimes; and if you really do have a great joy in helping others, you might want to bring that up to them. Show that you have passion, including helping others; if you work with animals, for example, talk about how much you love animals, your volunteer work, and how you feel things could be better.
This is my response
See that is the most ridiculous thing. This is the kind of thing that makes me mad. First of all I get committed too quickly. So putting yourself in a position where you are loyal to your desire is bad?
Second I never said I agree with everything. I am easy going. HUGE HUGE HUGE difference. This is why i get mad when people are like nice guys are not confident blah blah blah. Just because I disagree does not mean I will voice the fact. If it is petty and would make her happy sure why not, i agree. Now if it is something like she says "i hate dogs" i would be pretty upset. I would say well i fuckin love dogs. POINT BLANK PERIOD. Being nice means you do not make problems out of things that can be ignored with no negative results. I feel bad for the people who still do not understand what many of us nice guys are. Just open minded.
Third, treat women like relics blah blah? WTF? Your whole post is really upsetting to be honest. It just shows how misguided women are when they meet nice men. In my mind what I see is i treat women like human being. You know who else i treat like a human being? me, you, we, us, everyone. And to me, humans are pretty ******* priceless "whitewashed relics".
So please, before you assume a nice guy is insincere, lacks confidence, and needs approval, consider the possibility that he is just open minded, easy going person, willing to listen to the likes, dislikes, faults and gifts of just about anyone, and you however are not. Don't think you are so special. I mean, you are. But to us nice guys you are just as special as everyone else to us, which is very special, but you are not better than anyone.
And remember one thing always fellow nice guys. I am easy going but one of my believes is in karma. So keep being nice!
They say nice guys finish last.... Who is the last guy a woman dates? Her husband
Now I notice I see a lot of people either bashing nice guys, or nice guys bashing themselves and feeling bad for themselves. Well its about time to change that if you ask me. Use this as a place to say what you like about being a nice guy, or what you like about nice guys. Im a glass half full kind of guy, I try to see the good in things. I know it helps me, mabye it will help you to stop dwelling on the bad and falling into the streotype of "to be a nice guy you must also lack confidence" and what not. When people say those things you just lose more confidence. I know, us nice guys care what people think. Why? because we are nice and we want other people to be happy also. NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT. BUT... shake off the haters, the close minded, and the immature.
SHOW YOUR TRUE COLORS AND WHY YOU LOVE NICE GUYS OR BEING ONE!