Thanks for replying guys!
kamya said:
How old are you? Don't you at least have a roommate? I hear leaving your door open works, but if you aren't in the younger people's dorms then it might be harder.
I'm an 18 year old freshman, and I live in a single room so I don't have a roommate. I think if I leave my door open now there isn't a point since everyone already seems to be in their own groups now. I'm also a girl living in a building with guys too, so my parents would freak if they found out I did that. It must have been so much harder for you since you didn't live on campus.
RJLJD said:
[...] part of it is that i still have some of my old friends that i associate with a lot. however, another part of it is that i've always just been too shy to try to put in the effort to get to know people. i talk to a few people in my classes, but that's just as far as it goes.
try to engage someone in a class and see if they later want to do something out of school. or try to find out where the people that live on your floor like to hang out maybe and see if you can join them.
That's what really sucks - I'm at a university only a city over from my home city, but for some reason none of my friends or people I was acquaintances with go here. It's as if I went overseas and have to start all over. And yes, it does take a lot of effort to talk to people in class as a shy person. I haven't had to make new friends since middle school so I feel lost. Even if I do meet someone, I always think that they probably have other friends to hang out with and wouldn't want to hang out with me... I know that's bad to think and I'll never make friends like that, but I can't help it. Of course, making friends isn't everything - I went to university to study. But it sure would be nice to talk to someone... besides my parents on skype...
And now I feel like I'm rambling about myself too much. >_<
Ak5 said:
Or be more open.
Haha, easier said than done. ^_^"
sonu said:
i preferred to stay quiet in college.. and people came to me and asked why am i quiet.. why don't i talk to everyone... i was like that's my attitude.. i don't approach anyone first.. if you want to talk to me.. come to me.. and well they liked my attitude.. and i had selected bunch of friends and they all were good..
That's great, people went up to you and you became friends. You must be a pretty intriguing person. =)
whocares said:
College can be rough at times. It can be lonely.
BUT, remember why you're there. You are there to get a degree. PERIOD. That should be the number one priority. I'm not saying you shouldn't try to make friends but if that's all you're trying to do, you didn't have to go to college to do that. study
Right you are. I have never forgotten that, but humans are social creatures (which is what my psych prof keeps rubbing in) and studying and life in general would be nothing if there was nobody to share it with. I studied way too much in high school (although that's mostly good), and now I need to start thinking about other things too.