Over the hill?

[roundasapenguin]

I swear, if one more person asks me "Shouldn't you be married and with kids or something?" I'm gonna stuff the nearest cactus I can find up his/her nostrils and then laugh like captain caveman with hysterics.

*huffs*

I'm a female, so I'm like in my early thirties. Where I come from, if you're not hitched and with kids by the time you hit 27, that's like a social boo-boo. Relatives are gonna think "What's wrong with that one?"

Sometimes, they laugh behind their back and make comments about single, over-the-hill-women being perpetually on PMS and are real prudes.

I am not a nasty person, neither do I go around making life hell for others and I generally am not a prude (unless I'm having a bad day, and at most I'd just sulk at a corner to myself )

It hurts honestly and it ain't my fault I haven't found my Prince Charming riding into my life with this beer bellied horse and rusty armour - I just wish society would stop judging me

Ok sorry, I just had to rant It drives me ballistic when people constantly make remarks like that about me at work. Ugh. Anyone here face that same issue?

 

[PoWer2tHePeOpLE]

not exactly the same issue as that.. for one i am not female.. but i do remember being at a birthday party with my ex and being asked about marriage by her auntie and trying to explain diplomatically that i'm not very big on the idea of marriage.. the look on her face could've cracked a lead bank vault.. i felt very uncomfortable..

i won't judge somebody elses belief in marriage so why am i judged for not believing in it? i gather some people are just uncomforable with other people being different. there is a certain prescribed script that society in general seems to think all people should follow and when things don't happen in that way it seems some people lack the understanding and compassion to keep their mouths shut and make subtly derogatory and snidey remarks.. you'd think this sort of thing would have ended when people became adults.. HA! sometimes adults are just big ugly kids whose minds haven't become open enough to accept different lifestyles or become aware enough of the fact that not all people will move down the same path at the same rate..

seriously.. this isn't rocket science yet some people just don't get it.. worse, they are intolerant, inconsiderate and plain rude sometimes..

just more human-bollocks dude

 

[Lonesome Crow]

errr....wtf? If you ever been married or in a relationship with children involved...your social life is bascailly non-existence..lol
Not that I didn't liked being married or having children..it's just a different
life style. You bascially stop worrying about partying or fitting in
if you have children depending on ya to keep your honeysuckle together.
mmmm...ya even gatta get creative with sex too...
Can't be screaming or doing it on the washing machine while the
kiddies are sleeping...ya take every opportunity when the kiddies
are at grandmama's, the baby sitters or spending the night at thier friends.
Sometimes you gatta go parking on your own driveway....ya can't
go too far if the kiddies are sleeping...

PMS???
I don't have it the pMS..I do get empathy pains though.lol

mmmm...I don't have a beer belly. I stopped drinking @22.
I'm actaully rip now...
mmmm..my sweetheart is kind of concern about her wieght and looks
as she has always been. She's very beautiful as she has always been...
I love her for who she is and she has always been very beautiful.
To ease her mind we came to an agreement that we would experiment doing various yoga positions together
I'm over 40 but I feel young. Some people might even think I'm childish.
It's actaully a consious decision on my part to be light hearted or young at heart.
Errr???....did I mentioned I raised 3 children who's all in thier 20's now?
Somewhere along the line...I'm pretty matured.

 

[Haz]

I'm 23 and I already get the same rap off friends and family for never having had a relationship.

People either think I am gay, or a pedophile. It's kind of infuriating to have to face that "what's wrong with him" sort of thing, I imagine as a woman it would be even more difficult in social circles seeing how much relationships seem to be a much more important focus in life.

 

[coricopat]

Realize too that a lot of people need you to fall into the fold so that they can be normal. You're upsetting the status quo and that bothers people. Especially people that got the spouse, mortgage, and kids, and aren't necessarily thrilled with their life. I noticed the people that bothered me the most about my decisions (no mortgage, no kids) weren't really people I would call 'happy'. Happy people generally care less what others do with their life.

 

[JP88]

I'm 23 and I already get the same rap off friends and family for never having had a relationship.

People either think I am gay, or a pedophile. It's kind of infuriating to have to face that "what's wrong with him" sort of thing, I imagine as a woman it would be even more difficult in social circles seeing how much relationships seem to be a much more important focus in life.

Worse, I'm 18 and my parents and family think I'm gay because I've never had a girlfriend.

 

[celestial]

im 26, i have had relationships but never serious. I really dont want to take any chance of being a father. For some reason i dislike being around children. I worry about loosing my hobbies, freedom and my individuality. But at the same time i feel a desire to live a fullfilled life, currently being alone i dont think im living that life at all. I want to be happy but i usually hide away from anything i fear. In relationships before i tend to sabotage them before they begin to get serious. It seems to me like im my own worst enemy sabotaging my own life. But when i try to change that im just filled with a blank.

 

[epileptic]

Perfect response for when someone asks you that question, especially if they are an older person...

"Shouldn't you be dead?"

...they won't be expecting that one XD

I swear, if one more person asks me "Shouldn't you be married and with kids or something?" I'm gonna stuff the nearest cactus I can find up his/her nostrils and then laugh like captain caveman with hysterics.

*huffs*

I'm a female, so I'm like in my early thirties. Where I come from, if you're not hitched and with kids by the time you hit 27, that's like a social boo-boo. Relatives are gonna think "What's wrong with that one?"

Sometimes, they laugh behind their back and make comments about single, over-the-hill-women being perpetually on PMS and are real prudes.

I am not a nasty person, neither do I go around making life hell for others and I generally am not a prude (unless I'm having a bad day, and at most I'd just sulk at a corner to myself )

It hurts honestly and it ain't my fault I haven't found my Prince Charming riding into my life with this beer bellied horse and rusty armour - I just wish society would stop judging me

Ok sorry, I just had to rant It drives me ballistic when people constantly make remarks like that about me at work. Ugh. Anyone here face that same issue?

 

[BornMisfit]

I swear, if one more person asks me "Shouldn't you be married and with kids or something?" I'm gonna stuff the nearest cactus I can find up his/her nostrils and then laugh like captain caveman with hysterics.

*huffs*

I'm a female, so I'm like in my early thirties. Where I come from, if you're not hitched and with kids by the time you hit 27, that's like a social boo-boo. Relatives are gonna think "What's wrong with that one?"

Sometimes, they laugh behind their back and make comments about single, over-the-hill-women being perpetually on PMS and are real prudes.

I am not a nasty person, neither do I go around making life hell for others and I generally am not a prude (unless I'm having a bad day, and at most I'd just sulk at a corner to myself )

It hurts honestly and it ain't my fault I haven't found my Prince Charming riding into my life with this beer bellied horse and rusty armour - I just wish society would stop judging me

Ok sorry, I just had to rant It drives me ballistic when people constantly make remarks like that about me at work. Ugh. Anyone here face that same issue?

Oh boo hoo cry sob... oh grow up, honestly, I got this for years, and every single woman gets this in the neck for years from family and from smug friends. It's none of their **** business. I got married just before 30 and until then I even got accused very nastily of being a lesbian due to not having many boyfriends. Even when you are married you'll get stick all the time for not having babies, and after that there'll be even more stick about other things... and so it goes on and on! This is the curse that women have to bear from other women who judge us and feel more superior than us. The point is that it weakens you to permit them to back bite you and undermine you no matter who it is - don't permit yourself to be sucked in by it and affected by it, because that's stupid! Tell them to butt out, even your mother, and anyone who raises a peep, because it's your life not theirs, and none of them are perfect!!

 

[packyourbags]

Oh boo hoo cry sob... oh grow up, honestly, I got this for years, and every single woman gets this in the neck for years from family and from smug friends. It's none of their **** business. I got married just before 30 and until then I even got accused very nastily of being a lesbian due to not having many boyfriends. Even when you are married you'll get stick all the time for not having babies, and after that there'll be even more stick about other things... and so it goes on and on! This is the curse that women have to bear from other women who judge us and feel more superior than us. The point is that it weakens you to permit them to back bite you and undermine you no matter who it is - don't permit yourself to be sucked in by it and affected by it, because that's stupid! Tell them to butt out, even your mother, and anyone who raises a peep, because it's your life not theirs, and none of them are perfect!!

hey Bornmisfit.
i don't know what kind of suffering made you so cynical and harsh when you talk to others, but i hope you will, in time, understand that usually - kind words do alot more to help your cause than cynical and mean ones.

i understand that you are trying to help. and i understand that you have been through similar situations, and i DO agree with what you say.

i just hope that some day you will be able to express your very correct thoughts in a kinder manner.

i think you'll find it much more effective.

shade.

 

[Badjedidude]

BornMisfit: I think you're just here to get the attention your parents never gave you...and you'll even take negative attention. That's why every post you've made is negative and overly-condescending. I bet if everyone ignores you, you'll just go find a different site to haunt.

So either move on or change your tone to something more understanding and helpful.

Kthxbai.

----Steve

 

[EveWasFramed]

Moderator's Note: These threads must remain civil or I will begin to delete posts that I find are offending others.

 

[Lonesome Crow]

mmm...ok
Lets you and I get nust together Eve

I didn't think misfit was mean...
errr wtf... her handle is Pornmisfit.
I actaully agree with her..and I'm guy..even though I don't go boo... boo.. when I get a hang nail or have pms.

She's just saying, it's nobody's **** bussiness how you chose to live your life.
That was my insanities for years...trying to be accepted, fit in, compair, comform, do the right thing. All of the peer preasure BS.
And yeah...family will make or break ya....It's not the easiest thing in the world to tell my father to fresia off..
On top of that everything I did wasn't good enough for him anyways....
Being raised in that type of enviorment and constantly seeking approval from my father...
Well..honeysuckle, later on in my life with those **** habits or mentally...I ended up getting into a very toxic relationship.
It was insane...man. As crazy as it was...it was sort of familar and comforting to me.
All the faults guilt, shame....emotional phobia, not processing your feelings and you feel like no one really give a honeysuckle...
which keeps you in the cycle of insanity even more....love stravations
Some people term this condition as co-dependency.

She just saying love yourself. Find happiness within yourself. Be self supporting mentally, emotionally, or spiritaully

 

[cheaptrickfan]

I swear, if one more person asks me "Shouldn't you be married and with kids or something?" I'm gonna stuff the nearest cactus I can find up his/her nostrils and then laugh like captain caveman with hysterics.

*huffs*

I'm a female, so I'm like in my early thirties. Where I come from, if you're not hitched and with kids by the time you hit 27, that's like a social boo-boo. Relatives are gonna think "What's wrong with that one?"

Sometimes, they laugh behind their back and make comments about single, over-the-hill-women being perpetually on PMS and are real prudes.

I just wish society would stop judging me

I'm not exactly in your shoes, but I can sympathize. People just love to put their oar in whenever they can, don't they?

I've had people speculate over why I have decided to stop dating for the present. I over-heard one person say that it's just not right for me to prefer being a single mom than go out and, basically, hunt down a big, strong man to take care of me.

In short: people suck and don't know honeysuckle. The gossip gene is strong with some of them, and I am convinced that some of the worst offenders only indulge in butting into other people's lives and gossiping mercilessly about others as a means of avoiding facing how miserable their pathetic little lives are.


(((hugs to you)))

 

[Bluey]

Anyone here face that same issue?

I have yes.
Its sometimes looked at as weird if you get into your 30s and are still single.
But the only ppl that would judge you for that are reject simpletons that are ignorant.
Are you really going to let what ppl like that say bother you?

But maybe your looking at it all wrong.
Maybe some ppl who do ask you why haven't you got anyone yet are confused cos they look at you as someone that would have someone.
After all, all the good women are gone and are in a relashionship normally.
I would be moor worried if nobody ever asked you why your still single.
I would take it as a complement just as long as the person who is asking dose it in a friendly way.
Other wise tell them to sod of and get a life