Xpendable said:Yes, man. Submit.
Xpendable said:Yes, man. Submit.
Paraiyar said:Xpendable said:Yes, man. Submit.
Nah man, don't submit. Be a wolf amongst the sheeple by never working and not leaving home...
Paraiyar said:Xpendable said:Yes, man. Submit.
Nah man, don't submit. Be a wolf amongst the sheeple by never working and not leaving home...
Rainbows said:Ska, why can't you take a minimum-wage job and then go back to college or uni or whatever and highen your chances. If you really want to change your life, then do it that way.
Rainbows said:The only way you can get what you want is by working hard.
If you want to improve yourself you can start by looking positively at the world.
Rainbows said:Again, I'm surrounded by women everyday - and actually only one of my friends likes the "brute" guys. Perhaps you are searching for the wrong kind of people.
Rainbows said:It is all in your own hands, you just have to stop protesting to see it.
TheSkaFish said:Because for one, lots of other people have managed to do better than minimum wage with the same qualifications and skills as I have, maybe even less. I don't expect to just get the salary of a licensed professional, but I already have a bachelor's degree in a practical field and I've always been considered above-average intellectually, and I can grasp concepts and perform tasks more complex than that. And I definitely feel more competent than I was when I was in those jobs. I know I am capable of more than cashiering, making fast food, or stacking boxes. It's one of the few things I'm confident in, about myself. But if that is false, then I fear I'm hopeless.
It's also because minimum wage is an environment of failure, frustration, and despair. It would prove the old story true that I've been trying so hard to disprove, to break, to escape - the idea that I am not good enough to get what I want because I am fundamentally, at my core a loser, that is what I am and I just have to accept that I am a loser and will never have, do, or be anything. That I am naturally incompetent and inferior and incapable of success no matter what I try or how hard or how smart I work. In all those jobs, all the people there were broken, beaten down, defeated. No one was confident, no one was proud, no one seemed capable, no one acted like they believed in themselves and their ability to do well. They were the complete opposite of how I want to be. Going back to that would reaffirm my old story of being powerless.
Paraiyar said:If working a minimum wage job is an environment of failure, frustration and despair then what does that make living at home whilst unemployed?
kamya said:You have a a go to excuse for everything it seems. And the excuses don't even line up with each other. You contradict yourself multiple times just in that one single reply post to rainbows.
You don't feel like an empowered actor because you don't do anything. Those feelings of empowerment don't manifest out of thin air. You have to "work hard" and start doing things. Doesn't have to be the job. Make small goals and work at them and accomplish them. It will snowball from there.
kamya said:You have a go to excuse for everything it seems. And the excuses don't even line up with each other. You contradict yourself multiple times just in that one single reply post to rainbows.
You don't feel like an empowered actor because you don't do anything. Those feelings of empowerment don't manifest out of thin air. You have to "work hard" and start doing things. Doesn't have to be the job. Make small goals and work at them and accomplish them. It will snowball from there.
If you end up a loser for life it will only be because you refuse to stop thinking and acting like one. It has nothing to do with skills and abilities or "intellect". It is your attitude and mindset that makes you a loser.
TheSkaFish said:Paraiyar said:If working a minimum wage job is an environment of failure, frustration and despair then what does that make living at home whilst unemployed?
I don't only live at home for financial reasons.
The job thing is kind of a separate issue anyway. I made this thread to try to find out why I don't feel like an empowered actor in the first place.
lifestream said:Hey Ska.
You do whatever you feel you need to do. Never allow anyone to project their own insecurities onto you.
kamya said:You have a go to excuse for everything it seems. And the excuses don't even line up with each other. You contradict yourself multiple times just in that one single reply post to rainbows.
kamya said:You don't feel like an empowered actor because you don't do anything. Those feelings of empowerment don't manifest out of thin air. You have to "work hard" and start doing things. Doesn't have to be the job. Make small goals and work at them and accomplish them. It will snowball from there.
kamya said:If you end up a loser for life it will only be because you refuse to stop thinking and acting like one. It has nothing to do with skills and abilities or "intellect". It is your attitude and mindset that makes you a loser.
TheSkaFish said:What you are saying makes logical sense, that if I make small goals, work on them, and accomplish them, I will get better at whatever those things might be. I have seen this firsthand. However, I always stop because I think that I won't get beyond the small improvements, so to continue is only teasing myself.
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