Steve Hulsey
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Our Search for True Love
Lonesome vs Lonely
Lonesome vs Lonely
There's is a very distinguishing difference between the meanings of these two terms.
Loneliness is simply being alone, without company of others.
Lonesomeness is much deeper. It is the feeling of being alone and it can be an extremely painful one, even when you are among friends, family, crowds and even the one you're desperately in love with.
I believe that loneliness can become so severe that it can develop into a chronic mental illness that also causes other forms of mental illness to develop, as well, such as depression disorders, panic disorders, post-traumatuc stress disorder and others.
I have found that people who are lonesome-minded, as I naturally am, most always feel that they live in a different lane than the mast majority of people do. There are several things that can cause this, such as having a poor self image and self-esteem, not feeling worthy of love for whatever reason, not understanding why someone would love you and simply not knowing what love really is, having never experienced feeling someone's love for you, even though you may have experienced loving someone else.
We feel that most of the world is desensitized and fake to the core, even pulling the wool over their own eyes. We have deep feelings and recognize when others keep lids on theirs. The sad thing is that many times we fail to interpret someone's feelings, who really does love you, but has trouble expressing it. We need clarity in such expressions of feelings, so that we can be clear about it. When someone loves us, we need it expressed very clearly, so that we can build trust.
Dealing with romantic relationships, our world becomes even more mysterious and scary, even in the most eager moments, being that we have our hearts to guard.
I'm searching for the right girl I can replace a complete state of loneliness and void in her life with true companionship, the way it should be when a man loves his girl enough to do everything it takes to fill her heart with his love for her.
I believe that those of us who suffer loneliness have a higher capacity to care for someone who we do find true love with, dealing with, both, friendships and romantic relationships. What do you think?
Do you feel that you live in a different lane than the mast majority?
So, do you feel like you live in the same lane that I do?
Do you belong in my lane, but you have to find the road first?
Or, have you been completely lost?
These questions are for everyone, gals and guys. So, feel welcome to share your thoughts with us.