This is something I've been debating for a few weeks now. I had a little thing going with a girl for a months, around the end of 2011. Wasn't a serious relationship or anything, but it was a "relationship" (I'm trying not to be explicit here). Anyway, I found that the time I spent with her really changed my outlook on life and other things in a positive way. Also, we were both from different countries, studying in another country (ie, me from x, her from y, and studying in country z).
So I've been debating whether or not to send her an email saying that I really enjoyed the time I spent with her, all the outings we did were extremely pleasant, and that she improved my outlook on life...etc. I've been debating for a few reasons
1) I'm not sure, but I think she might be slightly bitter about it, since we never said bye to each other, and since she thought I was quite the womanizer, which I'm not, maybe she feels like I was just using her. Which I wasn't.
2) Really important, I don't want her to get the impression that I want to continue a relationship. It would be great to stay in touch, but if not thats fine. I hope I don't sound too selfish when I say this, but I'd rather not talk with her about random crap about each others lives all the time. There is a possibility of me working in her part of the world, but that would be a year or two or three in the future. So, it would be nice to meet her again, but I don't want to give her the impression that I'd really go completely out of my way to see her again. Not sure if this thought is understandable, so ask for further explanation if you don't understand.
I"m sure the email would brighten her day, but again I don't want #2 happening.
Anyway, any advice here would be appreciated. If something isn't clear by all means ask. Thanks.
So I've been debating whether or not to send her an email saying that I really enjoyed the time I spent with her, all the outings we did were extremely pleasant, and that she improved my outlook on life...etc. I've been debating for a few reasons
1) I'm not sure, but I think she might be slightly bitter about it, since we never said bye to each other, and since she thought I was quite the womanizer, which I'm not, maybe she feels like I was just using her. Which I wasn't.
2) Really important, I don't want her to get the impression that I want to continue a relationship. It would be great to stay in touch, but if not thats fine. I hope I don't sound too selfish when I say this, but I'd rather not talk with her about random crap about each others lives all the time. There is a possibility of me working in her part of the world, but that would be a year or two or three in the future. So, it would be nice to meet her again, but I don't want to give her the impression that I'd really go completely out of my way to see her again. Not sure if this thought is understandable, so ask for further explanation if you don't understand.
I"m sure the email would brighten her day, but again I don't want #2 happening.
Anyway, any advice here would be appreciated. If something isn't clear by all means ask. Thanks.