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Skid Row 89

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Recently I've been very nostalgic, thinking back to the fun times I used to have and the sense of happiness I felt. I feel like this was aeons ago though. I haven't felt particularly content in a long time and often have a sense of unease about the future and life in general. However, I'm unsure if this is just a phase and whether I actually was happier in the past or I'm just missing my childhood a little. Does anyone feel that they were generally happier in the past or feel they're the most content they've ever been at the present?
 
I think I'm pretty content, really. Although there was a time when I was younger when I had this great group of friends. We were all friends with one another and we were always doing stuff together, laughing, etc. I always hated school and never wanted to go but I went anyways because I knew they'd be there to make me laugh. None of us are really friends anymore, it makes me sad. I miss it. I'm not sure if I'll ever find another group of people like that again. But other than that, I'd say I'm content right now.
 
Yeah, I was definitely happier in the past. Back in the days before I became an avid researcher and knew the entire world was on a crash course with doom.
 
It's weird since I'm nostalgic all the time, but at the same time I don't think I was happier back then. I'm happier now mainly because I understand myself better.

I have my moments of happines, for whatever reason. Today I was all day alone in my room mostly surfing the web, nevertheless I felt quite happy. Why shouldn't I? after all, this is my time. I'm alive. Sometimes, I feel that's good enough.
 
Yes. 12 years ago.

I'm working now to throw off the past decade of misery and regain happiness.
 
Experience changes what makes us happy. We have our first relationship and from then on, relationships make us happy whilst before something less complex did. Then we start to earn money and what we can do with it makes us happy. I'd say I am a little happier these days then I was before. With age has come freedom and independence. That's not to say that I don't miss the past. Things were far simpler back then.
 
Felix said:
I have my moments of happines, for whatever reason. Today I was all day alone in my room mostly surfing the web, nevertheless I felt quite happy. Why shouldn't I? after all, this is my time. I'm alive. Sometimes, I feel that's good enough.
That seems like a **** good attitude to have lol. I suppose I just need to gain more confidence, get back out there and socialise more to bring me back to those days when I was surrounded by friends and always had a laugh.
 
Recently I've been very nostalgic, thinking back to the fun times I used to have and the sense of happiness I felt. I feel like this was aeons ago though. I haven't felt particularly content in a long time and often have a sense of unease about the future and life in general. However, I'm unsure if this is just a phase and whether I actually was happier in the past or I'm just missing my childhood a little. Does anyone feel that they were generally happier in the past or feel they're the most content they've ever been at the present?

Definitely, but you know, some people get too comfortable with how everything is and start being ungrateful and negative without noticing, then when it's taken away, you realise how great everything really was, always appreciate what you have because this happened to me.
 
I feel more comfortable with myself than ever. I've never had a moment where I had everything I wanted, so I can't really talk about happiness.
 
9006 said:
Recently I've been very nostalgic, thinking back to the fun times I used to have and the sense of happiness I felt. I feel like this was aeons ago though. I haven't felt particularly content in a long time and often have a sense of unease about the future and life in general. However, I'm unsure if this is just a phase and whether I actually was happier in the past or I'm just missing my childhood a little. Does anyone feel that they were generally happier in the past or feel they're the most content they've ever been at the present?

Definitely, but you know, some people get too comfortable with how everything is and start being ungrateful and negative without noticing, then when it's taken away, you realise how great everything really was, always appreciate what you have because this happened to me.
That's definitely an element in why I feel this way. I didn't appreciate how great things were back then and now my life is worse in nearly every aspect.
 
Skid Row 89 said:
9006 said:
Recently I've been very nostalgic, thinking back to the fun times I used to have and the sense of happiness I felt. I feel like this was aeons ago though. I haven't felt particularly content in a long time and often have a sense of unease about the future and life in general. However, I'm unsure if this is just a phase and whether I actually was happier in the past or I'm just missing my childhood a little. Does anyone feel that they were generally happier in the past or feel they're the most content they've ever been at the present?

Definitely, but you know, some people get too comfortable with how everything is and start being ungrateful and negative without noticing, then when it's taken away, you realise how great everything really was, always appreciate what you have because this happened to me.
That's definitely an element in why I feel this way. I didn't appreciate how great things were back then and now my life is worse in nearly every aspect.

Ditto!
 
I did have a couple of good years, but it's no point to get nostalgic to me, they ended for a reason, it's up to me to recreate the same conditions (and yes, a tiny bit of luck please)
 
Peaches said:
I did have a couple of good years, but it's no point to get nostalgic to me, they ended for a reason, it's up to me to recreate the same conditions (and yes, a tiny bit of luck please)
Part of my issue is I don't really think I can recreate that same sense of happiness. I sort of feel that the days of feeling generally content with life are gone forever.
 
Skid Row 89 said:
Peaches said:
I did have a couple of good years, but it's no point to get nostalgic to me, they ended for a reason, it's up to me to recreate the same conditions (and yes, a tiny bit of luck please)
Part of my issue is I don't really think I can recreate that same sense of happiness. I sort of feel that the days of feeling generally content with life are gone forever.

The only person who has control over your own happiness, is yourself.

So yeah Peaches, I think you can recreate it, may not be exactly the same feeling but yeah, you can find happiness. It's all in your perceptions and mindset. I definitely wish you all the best on this.

Happiness is all around for you to grab at. You have control and power over choosing what to be happy about. But human nature steps in together with emotions and wants and greed and all that. That's when you lose control.
 
ladyforsaken said:
Skid Row 89 said:
Peaches said:
I did have a couple of good years, but it's no point to get nostalgic to me, they ended for a reason, it's up to me to recreate the same conditions (and yes, a tiny bit of luck please)
Part of my issue is I don't really think I can recreate that same sense of happiness. I sort of feel that the days of feeling generally content with life are gone forever.

The only person who has control over your own happiness, is yourself.

So yeah Peaches, I think you can recreate it, may not be exactly the same feeling but yeah, you can find happiness. It's all in your perceptions and mindset. I definitely wish you all the best on this.

Happiness is all around for you to grab at. You have control and power over choosing what to be happy about. But human nature steps in together with emotions and wants and greed and all that. That's when you lose control.
I agree with you partly. However, I think many other people also have influence over your own happiness, such as friends for example, at least for me anyway.
 
Things were happier when I raised my son. Childhood sucked, lots of abuse. Then an abusive marriage. Things were tight but enjoyed raising my son alone, that was after the divorce. Things went south after my son left home. I wasn't prepared for it. Now the only good thing is hearing from him in mesenger. Its a struggle to survive on a daily bases. He might be home in April and that's the only thing I look foward to.
 

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