RealRecognizeReal said:
However although I establish friendships, I believe them to be false ones. Normally I'm an individual who doesn't take honeysuckle from no one and don't have a problem with cutting people off.
These two things, this could be part of your problem. If you think even your established friendships are fake, this attitude shows whether you think it does or not. Being a person who doesn't take honeysuckle from no one is good, it really is, but there's an extent. Not sure what you mean by cutting people off, if you mean it from that sentence then you must mean those who give you honeysuckle you just drop them, or having nothing to do with them?
Negative spread faster than positive, you sound like a very honest upfront kind of person, so if you've cut off people (friends) then they are going to gossip about you. They'll tell everyone how much of a ***** you were and make you look bad. My mom doesn't take honeysuckle of no one and will tell people her honest opinion whether they want to hear it or not. This has caused problems with family and some of her friends. They know if they need someone to talk to that will be real with them then she's the one to go to. She hates fake people too, so if she feels you are being fake she won't bother with you. People tend to push away from those who are like that.
My mom has told us stories of things that happened, like an Aunt who was running down their own brother and his wife, the moment they walk in the door she acted like their best friend. My mom got mad and said she was leaving, she wasn't going to sit here with people who wanted to act two-faced to someone. So my brother and I have told her know wonder family hardly visit or call. There's been a few times we've had to give her a look or shake our heads no so she wouldn't say something, or quietly tell her to leave it alone. She's learned to keep things to herself now and not say anything.
Myself, I like people who are open and outgoing because I'm so shy. I'm try to be honest to people like my mom BUT only if asked, otherwise I usually keep my mouth shut. It's their life so sometimes you just have to let things be and move on. I don't like it when people always have to voice their opinion especially when not asked, sometimes you just want to vent. When someone is like that they'd be the last person I'd call to hang out or talk to.
Not saying this is how you are mind you, I'm just being hypothetical here since I don't know you that well. I'm just going by what you've written here. If you are like what I've mentioned then you need to learn what my mom has learned, to just keep your mouth shut sometimes. Just go with the flow without violating your own ethics. Some of your friends might find you not easily approachable.