cosmosandmusiclover
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For those of us who actually isolate ourselves by not attending things, or just dropping out of touch and not maintaining relationships with people, I'm curious to know why others do it?
For me, it often comes down to the fact that after 35 years of living, there are just not a ton of people left who I feel uplifted around or supported by. Also, if the social gathering in question involves lots of people, I find it to be really difficult to have the kind of interactions with people I find valuable. You see a lot of people, but don't get time to really connect with them, because there's a lot of "mingling" happening and so the conversation is just relegated to small talk, which I am not a fan on. I have one BFF who is an amazing human being. We GET each other, I think is what it really is. She is also a "lone wolf" who wants to be "alone together." Same with my husband. I have a couple more people who live far away from me, but we are close and if we got together one-on-one it would be meaningful. I like interesting, detailed conversations. So I know in my intro post I lamented that I haven't been invited to the "townie reunion" which is a bunch of my high school friends getting together for dinner and drinks around the holidays. Well, I probably don't get invited anymore because eventually I stopped going. Which is totally my fault for isolating myself.
So, why do other self-isolators isolate themselves?
For me, it often comes down to the fact that after 35 years of living, there are just not a ton of people left who I feel uplifted around or supported by. Also, if the social gathering in question involves lots of people, I find it to be really difficult to have the kind of interactions with people I find valuable. You see a lot of people, but don't get time to really connect with them, because there's a lot of "mingling" happening and so the conversation is just relegated to small talk, which I am not a fan on. I have one BFF who is an amazing human being. We GET each other, I think is what it really is. She is also a "lone wolf" who wants to be "alone together." Same with my husband. I have a couple more people who live far away from me, but we are close and if we got together one-on-one it would be meaningful. I like interesting, detailed conversations. So I know in my intro post I lamented that I haven't been invited to the "townie reunion" which is a bunch of my high school friends getting together for dinner and drinks around the holidays. Well, I probably don't get invited anymore because eventually I stopped going. Which is totally my fault for isolating myself.
So, why do other self-isolators isolate themselves?