Recent content by Alaric

I am sorry you saw what I said as offensive. I have worked with people who have suffered much in their lives. Limbs gone, blindness, deafness, burns, and all manner of other terrible scarring things. What I found in all those years is that people can remain sad, depressed, sometimes even...

The point was for the member to see that ugliness is something unique to each beholder. Many people have done well in this world with looks that were outside what most people consider aesthetically pleasing. Take a look at Lyle Lovett. He may not be handsome by most standards, but he sure is a...

You need to seek out a good counselor/therapist. It is impossible to say what it is that makes you feel you are ugly. The fact is it may only be you that sees you that way. If the reverse is true... If you are - by warped societal standards - not as aesthetically pleasing as others, then you are...

A wheelchair is an impediment... Crippled legs replaced by wheels... No arms is an impediment... We use prosthetic claws... No sight is an impediment... To read we use Braille... Deafness is an impediment... To communicate we use sign language and the written word... But when we are crippled...

How very existentialist your words are! Our greatest journeys are all taken alone. The last of which being the longest. Each is an adventure, and each a treasure unrepeatable. It is right that we accept these gifts, and make of them the best we can.

Firefly is describing a kind of journaling. Her method is a kind of self-inventory where she lists the things she likes, and the things she wants to change. Some people look in a mirror and do it, other write it down. Journaling is an excellent part of a therapy process, and something most...

ALL people question the purpose of their existence at some point. Even those who say they do not, will, at some time, have that question. Existentialists believe that the purpose of your life can be found in the moment, not in the past or in the future. There are some things that are just...

A lot of people make lists about pretty much everything. When you get anxious about it then, yes, it's a problem. Not to anyone else, mind you, just to you. The big thing is that YOU see it as something that needs to be changed. You need to challenge yourself to find out what happens if you...

First of all, you need someone to talk to. If you are in college, you need to seek out the counselors there and sit down and just let it all out. There are a zillion exercises you can do, but it all boils down to the person you are. Who do you want to be? How would you like others to perceive...

Most people living with the kind of problem you describe can find the reason in the dim distant past. It generally comes from mom or dad or both. "I'm not here to pick up after you!" "Why are you so much trouble?" "You don't know what I had to sacrifice by bringing you into the world!" and so on...

John Candy was pretty big... He did okay... Chris Farley... He was loved by anyone who encountered him... Queen Latifah... Big list of "big" people who did just fine. My best friend for years was a very big guy. He stood 6' 8" and weighed in at almost 400 pounds. He was a big big guy. I liked...

It sounds to me as if you need to ask yourself why you do not want friends. Is it that other people displease you? Or is it that you fear they will not like you, accept you, or want you? Many of us fear that we have nothing to offer, but that is never true. The greatest asset you have is...

Look inside first. Remember your life is a finite place. Around you there are many people who care deeply about you, and some of them are probably scratching their heads, wondering why you ultimately reject them. They cannot know what thoughts hide inside you. They cannot know the fears you...

Male - too old to mention! I am from Shepparton, Victoria, Australia, but I live in New Mexico, and have dual citizenship in both Australia and the USA.

A little boy in state care (I was a CPS social worker) said, and I quote, "I wish I could have you for my daddy... Then I'd be happy..." I wish I could have had him for my son, but I did find a mum and dad for him. Being a social worker has its occasional upside.