Recent content by ensom

I definitely believe this to be the case. The same goes for other mental illnesses or issues, like depression. It's why I ditched my first therapist. He would tell me things like "talk to more people" or "be more social" without offering anything else. If all I needed was for someone to tell me...

I think this is the key. Waiting around for people to approach me certainly hasn't been effective, and I think I've given this sorry method more than enough time. I guess I am just resentful of always being the one to have to initiate. Like you said, I feel I must just look boring. Another...

Same issue here, friend. I fall in love so easily -- always with girls who show no romantic interest in me -- and hate myself whenever it happens.

Like others have said, I think shy guys are considered "cute" by some girls but maybe not relationship material. Speaking from experience, although I wouldn't necessarily consider myself a shy person (just painfully introverted), shy people (and introverted people) are a lot harder to get to...

Find someone they like who likes them back? Not only that, but find someone they like who likes them back and is in the position to be someone's significant other (no boyfriend/girlfriend)? This just seems like such a hard thing for me, but people manage. People I have no idea how they could...

Ha ha yup, doing therapy too :) You're right though. I'm trying to keep my expectations realistic. I know they're not magic pills. I'm hoping the meds can at least help me work on the problems I feel are caused by years of being depressed. I do feel noticeably different, so they're doing...

Thanks guys. Some good tips... wish I could just find the confidence to put them into action. Definitely what I've come to realize talking to a therapist is the need to take risks, like HappyYogi mentioned. I am quite reserved after first meeting someone and that makes me a less attractive...

I'm still here :) (or should I say :(?) What you say makes sense and is something I've definitely come to realize. I've encountered people I'd consider more awkward than myself and interacting with them does tend to not feel that great. Although I have a tendency to attribute other people being...

I've had friends like that before. It's never worth keeping someone in your life if the things they say constantly hurt you. It's tough when that person is in your circle of friends though. That doesn't seem to be the case in your situation, so I'd say just cut off contact. Friends are supposed...

Hi everyone. There's something that's been bothering me for awhile. Despite being able to have perfectly amicable (and mostly non-awkward) interactions with others, why can't I make friends? It's like this: I chat with a person on multiple occasions but it just never progresses from there. this...

I can relate friend. But what's worse is I can't even seem to befriend girls. I get acquaintance-zoned. (is that a thing?) Ah well.

I hold doors for women and men purely out of politeness, and plenty of women have held doors for me. Where I live at least it seems everyone holds doors for everyone. To address the topic: pretty clear from the replies that some do :) I'd love to meet a woman who fancies me enough to make the...

I usually answer that it's because I'm tired. I'm always tired, so it's always true. I could go on and on explaining to them that some people just talk more than others due to differences in personality and that being quiet doesn't necessarily mean something's wrong but it's just not worth it...

It's complicated. Here are a few reasons why I believe I'm lonely: I have difficulty opening up to people and being myself. Consequently, it takes quite a bit of effort to get to know me. I think most people don't have that kind of patience, especially considering there are plenty of other...

Comparatively good, I guess. I've been as lonely as ever, but I've also been taking small steps to improve my situation, rather than just sitting around and accepting things as they are. That's something positive, at least.