Hello Morrowrd!
I know how you feel. Unfortunately (or maybe fortunately), I struggle trying to accept my estranged family and lack of close friendships. Whenever I do it just thrusts me into a depression. Trying to be social seems to alleviate the pain for those moments but it returns...
Story of my life! I never knew I had an issue until I was 22 (at the end of college) and so deperately lonely...
Yes, that's another downside of being around people who've got active social lives. It just augments your own loneliness and makes you feel worse and yet you are around people...smh...
Wow, I'm so sorry you have to go through this... I won't say I've been rejected by my parents but I've definitely suffered mentally and socially because of them and their relationship with each other and the outside world. If you'd ever like to talk PM me. :)
Very good illustration with the dam. Gosh, it's just so hard to break the cycle. Having a small social circle makes it quite hard to branch out and meet people. But distractions and activity don't always make up for that loneliness that persists inside...
Hello MsLonely,
Thanks for venting and letting it all out. Overthinking is a very common issue for those of us who are lonely or isolated or anti-social (or all three). I often do this after interacting with others and I just wish I could turn it off!! It's a part of that negative inner talk...
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I love the research you used here. This is so true. If I go do something just to be social like so and so I am usually miserable the whole time. It is partially because I'm only going out to fulfill the societal norm of being social. I'm comparing to what others are doing and my motivation is...
Yes, loneliness is a strange thing. One can be at a celebration with tons of family, friends, and acquaintances and still feel lonely. I welcome you to the forum!
Wow, very powerful and insightful description of an approach anyone can take when dealing with the issues loneliness and isolation can stir up. I really like what you said here.
I wouldn't ever say that I have no one (simply because I do believe in God) however I consider myself to have...
This is the one friend that I am still hoping to find (outside of familial relationships). :)
Yes, I've had only a couple of friends like this in my life and I miss them. I MUST be at peace when I am silent in your presence. If not, then I have trouble continuing the friendship...
Wow, I can't really imagine having nieces and nephews to love on but I'm getting myself to a point where I understand that having people around doesn't stop the deep-seated feelings that cause loneliness. Also, I had to chuckle at how your mom thinks someone is listening in on her calls because...
Yes, it's quite hard though, to be honest. I'll gain momentum and then fall back into familiar patterns. But I'll keep chugging at it. Have you had much success in your thirties meeting perhaps a more mature crowd of adults?
Lack of family is really painful. Have things changed for you at all...
** Poll should say "fulfilling" not "unfulfilling".
First, I'd like to say hello to everybody (again). I feel like I need to give a brief background to explain how I got here:
- Raised in an EXTREMELY overprotective Christian family.
- Both of my parents sides of the family have deep issues so...