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The first thing that popped into my head is that you're trying too hard. You'll be lucky if you "have all the answers" before you die (a wrinkled old lady a very long time from now) much less in high school. Relax, "Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and...

OK, I'll bite. What's brought on the exceedingly good mood ?

Ghost, What I'm saying is that life is short. Wallowing in our misery doesn't bring someone to us. And I think that happy people have better luck attracting a mate. So do things you enjoy, get out more, and make a real effort to notice and appreciate every good thing in your life. For way too...

I've posted this here for those who sometimes feel that they will never find anybody, that too much time has gone by, that it's too late: I used to hang out in this coffee house in SoCal and there was a couple there that I was privileged to observe for a time. They had to be in their 70's at...

Ghost, I could have written your post myself. But I've come to believe that our pining over what we believe we are missing, may be the very cause of the problem. I hope that we both can get on with our lives, finding things to take joy in. Because we all are attracted to happy people, and not...

I feel like it'll never happen to me again. Me too. And that, is the very essence of my pain.

Seems like you're ruining your NOW over a future that may never come. I'm not a Buddhist in the worship sense, but I find the philosophy very helpful so I'll lay this little question on you. Given that death is certain and the hour of death is unknown what would be the best use of this...

this song automatically popped into my mind Funny

Organized religion is the torment of the masses Actually, you sound pretty normal to me. Unhappy-but normal. I recently quit drinking and gave up caffeine. Now that crazed hyperactive chimp in my head snoozes most of the time, giving me a break from the constant negative self-talk that...

I'm 50 in the mirror and about 20 in my head when I'm feeling happy and about 100 when I let things get me down. The one bit of advice I give to young people (when they will listen) is to work at something you enjoy. Happiness trumps money any day of the week. (you can have both, just don't...

Intellectually speaking I believed the things you've said for a very long time. But emotionally.......it still hurts. Sex is nice. But it's no comparison to sex with a soul-mate. It's a double-edged sword. The person who brings the most joy has the potential to do the most damage. To lose...

Not anymore. Nice Me died from emotional starvation. What's left is Only Me Yeah, just so they'd know how it feels

I've always been the "nice guy." You know, finishes last, never gets the girl. When I fantasize about getting even with those that I feel have "done me wrong," it's never a fantasy of me hurting them or them getting hurt. I fantasize that they desperately need something that only I can give...

Drink and drugs make things worse. I now regret every drink I took and all the weed. It's like time-warp. IN A FLASH you're much older with the same damned problems that lead you to search for comfort in the first place.