Recent content by TheStaggy

You need to figure out the root of your confidence issues and try and address them. For me, there are three areas that have always affected me; body image,; shyness and socioeconomic status. On my body image; I'm an ectomorph, tall and lean and I also have what you call pectus excavatum. My...

Of the two people I would call friends, one is the outgoing one I mentioned in my OP while the other is very much like me in terms of our nature in social engagements. When us two ''withdrawn'' guys get together it is a case of a burst of conversation interspersed with long moments of silence. I...

From both a romantic and friendship perspective, what type of person are you drawn to? For me it has always been my opposite. Shy and introverted, I have always been drawn to gregarious people. I find people that can easily talk to others put me at ease in social situations and coax me out of...

In my opinion, these ''clicks'' are formed by one or more strong, common interests or outlooks. Even if that common ground is disagreeing over everything in a stimulating way, those lively discussions will draw people closer. The original attraction will always be something physical, nobody can...

Hi. The only way I can explain it is that I feel like I am being left behind, hence my overwhelming sense of loneliness when I see others doing X and Y and I'm still here. Reason why I seem aloof and disinterested is because I am indeed guarded, a defence mechanism from my childhood. I tend to...

Thread seems dead but my take on this is; I see you are approaching 30. Out our age - I myself am 30 - it is incredibly difficult to make new friends. You will be trying to ''crack'' social circles where people have known each other since college/varsity or even since childhood. They have their...

As one of these guys falling through the cracks I can say that there is almost always an explanation. I'm a good looking guy, I exercise 4-times a week and I'm working towards a degree (better late than never) in finance so it is fair to say that I have something between my ears. However, I am...

Hi folks. Well, I've been looking for a forum to join and just vent around people that will hopefully understand where I am coming from. This is my story; I'm a 30-year old male. I come from a stable home where love and support is and never was lacking. My parents are still happily married...