Recent content by TooMuchAnxiety

So tonight was the night...opening day baseball game date. Thought it went well, but at the end of the night I went in for a kiss and ended up just getting a side hug, followed by a text later saying that it wasn't there for her physically and she thinks we'd be better off as friends. Nothing...

Yeah, that's what I am trying to do now. There's no traumatic event that brought about my anxiety...I just tend to only remember the disaster moments and not the times where dates have gone off without a hitch. I tend to worry about, "What if I get another panic attack?" And then the anxiety...

As I deal with my latest bout with anxiety regarding dating, I find myself dwelling more and more on past negative experiences I've had (recent and way back). Does anyone else do this? Why is it that I never recall the positive experiences and successes I've had with dating? More so, why do I...

Thanks for the warm welcome everyone!

Just an update, my anxiety level has come down a lot since Monday but it's still elevated. This is odd, because normally I don't feel this way until the day of the date. Still trying to think positive because she does seem to still be interested, but our next date has to go well. I'm trying to...

I go through similar feelings. Here are some things I try to do to help me: 1. Just ask questions. I think this came from the 40 year old virgin, but if you can ask the other person you're with questions, it takes the pressure off you. Most people like talking about themselves, so fire away...

I've definitely shied away from others when I've been feeling down. But sometimes just getting out there and around other people has cheered me up.

I've been dealing with panic attacks when it comes to dating and sex for the past 15-16 years. It's only been about two years since I sought professional help, and while it has helped tremendously I still have a way to go. I'm hoping that by sharing and venting with people who kind of understand...

I have to agree with the people who have mentioned CBT. It's tough to take that first step and admit you need help, but when I finally did it it did bring some relief. For me, I also needed medication to help with my symptoms. It's not perfect yet, but I am making progress and that's a start.

Thanks for the reply! I completely get what you're saying about putting pressure on myself about the next date. That's probably why I've been a bit of a basket case today. Something that has worked for me in the past is talking to myself in a positive manner, kind if hyping myself up instead of...

I've dated at least one girl in the past that I knew wasn't "the one," but I dated her just so I had someone. I've since changed my tune and now if I know I'm not into someone, I just end it. I guess I'll keep searching until I find someone who meets my expectations. Like edgecrusher said, we...

I was thirty before I finally lost my virginity. I can relate to how you feel, but I admire the fact that you actually opened up to someone about it. I kept that fact a secret (well, I never told anyone, my guess is my friends probably knew). As others have said, it's really nothing we should...

Hey all, new member here. I guess I'll start with a little background...I've had panic attacks when it comes to dating since college. For a long time I just ignored it and chose not to date, but once I turned 30 a coworker set me up with a woman. She was understanding and it worked out for a...