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I thought this was a question for women?

Hi Joturbo, Well, I did most of my dating in my early 20's. Then I got really caught up with my career and didn't date too much until my late 30's. So most of the guys I dated were in my age group of early 20's, which is why I mentioned that I think it has to do with age. In my own experience...

Hi Joturbo, I've been doing a lot of reading about relationships and roles. Here is my opinion of what I've learned. The antiquated and traditional thinking is that the man needs to be the strong one, the one who "brings home the bacon" and the one who doesn't show emotion. He's the one who is...

Yes, I have considered it, often...I'm a little ashamed still to tell anyone in my real life what's going on, but it's on my mind.

I'm quite sure he was like that the whole time and just put on a good act until he hooked me. In hindsight, there were no subtle signs, except maybe that it seemed too good to be true.

Sorry to hear that. Another "ex".

Tammy, you know I can relate to what you're going through...Our first year together, he completely forgot my birthday. I had to remind him the next day and he was apologetic, but still didn't do anything, yet I remember all of the holidays and celebrations and I bet if I forgot his birthday...

Watching Halloween 2 and actually feeling scared!

I can't believe I have to put the heat on...it's just above zero with a chance of snow today. I'm not ready for winter yet. I get really bad cabin fever.

Horrible, but glad to see "ex" in your reply. Hi Serenia, you wrote "ex", good for you. I'm sorry you went through that. I hope to be writing "ex" before the summer as well.

Just keeping busy, sharing information, working out my thoughts and my feelings today :) I read an interesting article on a psychology website that I really related to. These are some traits of abusive people, and my boyfriend has all of them. I am tempted to send him this article, but I know...

Hi DeepTXWater, Thank you for your support. You know, I don't really mind being isolated most of the time because I do love my solitude and I'm not a fan of society in general, but during these times where I feel trapped by abuse and intimidation, then yes, it's a hindrance. My logical mind...

I know it's hard for anyone who hasn't suffered emotional abuse to understand why I would even consider staying in an abuse relationship. I just want to clear that up a bit because it's very complicated. I fell in love with a good man, a man who showed me love, care and a promise for the future...

I'm thinking about how my coffee tastes so good this morning. :) I'm also thinking of how lucky I am that I have a roof over my head, a car that I just paid off 2 weeks ago (yay!)...my pets, a decent income, food in the fridge and nature at my doorstep. Trying to focus on the positive.

Hi Friends, Just rambling today. I was thinking about all of the advice I've been given here lately about trying to find good temporary homes for my pets so that I can leave my abusive relationship before my lease ends in the spring. I appreciate all of the advice. <3 I've mentioned that I...

Hi Ringwood, Thanks for your reply. I know too well that I need to get away asap for my own well being. The shelter where I adopted 4 of my six pets back in 2015 closed down. I live in a rural area and don't have any friends or family. I just can't bring myself to leaving my pets, separated...

You are NOT patronizing at all! You are very right. Actions mean more than words, and that is one of my mottos in life. Past behaviour will indicate future behaviour. I know that love doesn't conquer all, if only life were like Disney huh? :)

I don't mind you asking Joturbo, thanks.  I promise I'm working on my independence. I just have to do it very gradually so that it's not a big "drama moment" for him. I feel like I have to plot and sneak around all the time. He stopped working five years ago because he told me he got laid off...

My family is all passed on, and I chose not to have any friends because of social anxiety, so it's really just me in this big ol' world! Normally it would be fine, I like being secluded...but in this situation, it's hard. Yes, he asked me for money yesterday and I gave it to him. But he doesn't...

:) I relate to that...when my laptop died last year, all I had was my cell phone with that tiny little keypad, I basically stopped typing completely until I got my laptop fixed!