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I'm an idiot when it comes to small talk. My conversations go one of two ways - I get a life story or glazed eyes. It's not that I'm boring (well, maybe I am) it's just that my thought process is abstract and I tend to blurt things out before filtering those thoughts through my common sense...

I'm uncomfortable in large crowds, even if I like everyone there. I feel an obligation to engage - smile, chat, disengage, repeat - just thinking about it is exhausting. I don't avoid situations like that, but I don't seek them out either ... unless it involves dancing. The fact that you...

I'm pretty thick skinned. I don't really care what people say about my looks and personality; I can't control either so my opinion about people disliking me is what they feel toward me is their problem not mine. During a difficult time of my life, I had to put my daughter in foster care while...

Dancers thrill me ... how they express themselves with their bodies. How they can physically manifest passion and grace and emotion. Embracing music with mind, heart, and body. I love to dance, that's how I show the world how much of me is hidden inside ...

This really caught my eye. I guess I never looked at life this way - each day is either endured or enjoyed. Thanks for food for thought.

I can see this as practice. I would use a rent-a-friend if they would evaluate me and tell me what I was doing "wrong". There are times when I'm going insane with boredom. To be able to rent someone to go to an art festival or a craft fair or roller skating or a musical festival. My husband...

I agree with you completely. I've always felt though is people who choose to be friends with those who don't exhibit friendly behavior is because they have something to offer that I don't. Social connections, money, status, entertainment. I was friends with a crazy woman once because her...

I realize that everyone's idea of loneliness is different. Take me for instance - I've been married for 12 years to my best friend and I have 3 children. Still, I feel socially isolated and my ventures into the world aren't successful. I'm to the point where I feel like I have to go to a...

No apology needed. I would think that this forum was created for that exact reason - to ramble, to vent, to explore. Please, ramble away. I can so identify with what you've said. I've never understood why I'm practically friendless when people with less than desirable characteristics have an...

I have a tendency to over think and over analyze how people behave toward me. I'm always digging for hidden meanings. With that, I'm sure I not only misinterpret things that are said to me, I also look for subconscious cues, which probably aren't entirely accurate.

I don't see a problem adding her now, with a reminder of who you are and how you know her. I think that with a different avenue of communication, especially with your computer being a buffer, you might be more comfortable with developing some sort of relationship with her. I've seen people...

How can people be so cavalier about the emotional bloodshed they are directly responsible for? Especially someone who encouraged friendliness and camaraderie? Does middle school ever end? I remember the relief I felt graduating from HS. Naively believing that maturity would be embraced by all...

Not saying that it is rational to place blame when there is no blame to place, but as humans we are always looking for explanations for enigmatic situations. The meaning of life, existential contemplation, the abundance of mismatched socks, Sasquatch ... Do you blame your loneliness and social...

I have an elaborate and detailed imaginary life. I don't know if other people spend as much time daydreaming as I do. Daydreaming about mundane activities like shopping at a farmers market or taking a plane ride. And it's not occasional - I actually set time aside in my schedule to live in my...

How about being nice just because that's part of your personality? I'm nice. I respect people, I'm courteous, I'm generous, I'm empathetic to those around me. Sure, I get used at times (like I've said, I have friends because I "do" things for others but it's an even trade), but that's my...

Most people my age don't really know what will make them happy career-wise. I don't even know what job would make me happy. I think that's just part of life - you can't know something for sure without experiencing it first. So that's something you have in common with a lot of people. As for...

I dunno. I've lusted after men I wasn't infatuated with. I barely knew them but was physically attracted to them. I've also been infatuated with men whose personality lit me up. How they made me feel wasn't purely physical - I wanted them in my life because they made everything brighter.

In my opinion, living with what you're enduring, how you feel is absolutely natural. You're dealing with an enormous amount of stress and you're dealing with it alone. The fact that you're reaching out means that you're looking for support - that you have faith with the right support you will...

I always felt that infatuation was more about how the object of your affection made you feel as opposed to love being about how you make the object of your affection feels. When I want someone because they make me happy, then I'm infatuated. When I care about how another person feels, regardless...

I don't think you should give up on anything - my message to you is to not let the resentment and frustration overwhelm who you are. Is the way your life is going keeping you from appreciating what you do have in life? Or does your social anxiety overshadow everything? I don't know. My...