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Thanks Bob. You are right obviously. Feeling bad about yourself does project that and people are sensitive enough to pick up on it, just like I do in poker - I know I'm not especially gifted or talented, most people can do it if they practice and keep their eyes open. The truth is probably...

Actually, I think any girl is out of any bloke's league if SHE thinks she is, but you're right that thinking it won't help, because she might not be thinking that at all.... no matter how unbelievable that might seem to someone who desn't like themselves much. LIA, what if she's actually...

She may just be looking for a really nice guy who will treat her well. Try not to think of her as out of your league (hypocrite I know). Just maintain the friendship and if you get the chance to be cheeky, flirty and funny then try it and see if she bites or definitely just wants to be...

dont believe that for a second and i'd swap blind if i could ;P

look forward to the second post. :)

Hey dude... similar story only a few years older (34). Welcome and let us know if you ever want a chat/vent/sympathetic ear.

Happy new age of Aquarius everyone! :)

I was kinda hoping for advice at how to deal with the misery, not the situation, and stories from people telling me that being in love was just as bad, that all human beings feel ths suffering about something or other (the turture and stress of raising kids, or irritation at your partner in a...

Any blokes ever considered buying a 3rd world bride and just hoping she's grateful and nice? Has crossed my mind a few times. It would be embarassing with friends and family knowing, but possibly better than this misery...? "whom you really have no idea as to what's going on in their head."...

"In the context of meeting a stranger on the basis of dating them, I think we'd all make that decision right away. If looks are acceptable, then we get to personality, and other details." This is exactly what I meant, and that for someone like me it is physically impossible to get past that...

I'm not sure I buy the beauty in the eye of the beholder business personally. Beauty is pretty much maths... the golden ratio, 1:1.612 or something close to that. If you apply it across all the relative angles of the face you can make people more or less attractive. If you show pictures of a...

Hi Teresa, thanks for kind words x Another pretty bleak day... such a ray of sunshine eh? Sorry... i do have good moods occasionally too, they are just fewer and further between these days. My issues go deeper than my looks, but they are mostly because of my looks and the effect they had on my...

ty dude, you're right. i can't accept any of this advice and have heard it all before... if there is truth in it that applies to me then I'm not in the right place to see it, so time is the best advice of the night. ty again for listening... I just joined to vent, but didn't expect such nice...

It's not just my looks... I'm not a worthwhile human being either... I'm insecure and pathetic, incapable of loving or being attractive in any way, selfish and wallowing in self-pity instead of getting out there and just devoting my life to others. I don't think it would matter how bulky I got...

You forgot the 4th option, those pics don't really show how ugly I am... I'm ugly in real life and in 90% of pics, but the 10% where I don't look as hideous are the only 10% that survive. I also think the natural, decent human thing to do is tell white lies when consoling someone because you...

I wish that were true of my situation, thank you again for trying. You would lose your house, I guarantee i! You can't compare our situations really... I doubt there are even half a dozen people on the planet as freakishly young looking as me. I'm 34 and have tried dating an 18 year old, after...

Some really good advice there, thank you for trying. Yes I wrote it in a very low and self-pitying mood, but I write a bit in my spare time so I often slip into more dramatic tones when I feel like that. Sadly, my self-image isn't the typical BDD distortion. I really am a freak. I am 34 but...

Don't know what else to say... feel like I don't even have the energy to explain myself and have no one to turn to. I've now had to resort to writing a kind of diary to try and exorcise my demons because there's no one to talk to, so maybe I'll just post some of that. Thought I might search...