Case
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Are you an overthinker? Have you experienced analysis paralysis? To me, an overthinker is a person who can be so paralyzed and buried in their own thoughts that it impedes decision-making to the point where either nothing happens, or the situation is made to seem negative when it isn't.
For example, let's say a girl that I have only met on one or two occasions, suddenly says "Hello" to me as she walks by. Here is what my brain will do in a matter of seconds:
"Why did she say Hello to me?" (Suspicion.)
"She's never said Hello to me before." (Caution.)
"I like her, but she didn't seem to want a conversation." (Disappointment.)
"Why did she not stop and talk? Was she too busy for me?" (Complaint.)
"Was she just being polite?" (Self-hate.)
"Her friends don't like me. Maybe it was their little private joke?" (Self-hate.)
"She is really pretty, but she would never go for a guy like me." (Self-hate.)
And on, and on, and on. My brain runs through every possibility in a given situation, positive and negative. Sometimes, it's a good thing. At work, if someone suggests a project or an idea for improvement, my mind runs so fast that before the team is able to start working on it, I have about 4 or 5 talking points that will be worth discussing. But I've had many talks about my over-thinking over the years.
I know that my friends are aware of my tendency to overthink, and I am well aware of how it can be irritating to the listener when this happens, particularly when the overthinking is mostly negative.
I find myself overthinking myself into inaction all the time. And inevitably, it leads to procrastination. It's like I want the perfect scenario in every decision I make, and if I can't find the perfect decision, I stop thinking about it and put the idea on ice. Partly because I'm exhausted from thinking about it, and also I have not found the perfect solution.
I've read some online tools for reducing the overthinking mind, but have you found methods that have worked for you to stop this incessant thought process?
For example, let's say a girl that I have only met on one or two occasions, suddenly says "Hello" to me as she walks by. Here is what my brain will do in a matter of seconds:
"Why did she say Hello to me?" (Suspicion.)
"She's never said Hello to me before." (Caution.)
"I like her, but she didn't seem to want a conversation." (Disappointment.)
"Why did she not stop and talk? Was she too busy for me?" (Complaint.)
"Was she just being polite?" (Self-hate.)
"Her friends don't like me. Maybe it was their little private joke?" (Self-hate.)
"She is really pretty, but she would never go for a guy like me." (Self-hate.)
And on, and on, and on. My brain runs through every possibility in a given situation, positive and negative. Sometimes, it's a good thing. At work, if someone suggests a project or an idea for improvement, my mind runs so fast that before the team is able to start working on it, I have about 4 or 5 talking points that will be worth discussing. But I've had many talks about my over-thinking over the years.
I know that my friends are aware of my tendency to overthink, and I am well aware of how it can be irritating to the listener when this happens, particularly when the overthinking is mostly negative.
I find myself overthinking myself into inaction all the time. And inevitably, it leads to procrastination. It's like I want the perfect scenario in every decision I make, and if I can't find the perfect decision, I stop thinking about it and put the idea on ice. Partly because I'm exhausted from thinking about it, and also I have not found the perfect solution.
I've read some online tools for reducing the overthinking mind, but have you found methods that have worked for you to stop this incessant thought process?