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I feel invisible
#1
Last year I moved to a new school as I was going into sixth form (I am now in yr13) I managed to join a group by being in lessons with a few of the people in the group. By Christmas last year (2017) I thought I had made pretty good friends with the people in this group one of them I got the bus with to and from school each day (I’ll  call her an Anna). Throughout the year I hadn’t noticed that they were talking about going out together and I had a also noticed that I was never getting invited. Just a few weeks above it was a friend’s birth day and she had invited everyone in the group to join her for a meal out but me. This is when I kind of noticed that I am not really part of their group and that they only want to acknowledge me when they need a lift to come back from their meal because they want to drink and need more people to be sober drivers (just remember that I’m not even invited). Now I should’ve said no but me wanting to make them notice me so I could be invited I said yes to it. This is when I realised that I don’t actually have anyone I can just go out with to do something and that I am in fact really lonely and that it sucks to feel this way, I do try to socialise but they got their own banter from the years they have known each other for. Thank you for reading this I just wanted to get this off my chest.
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#2
Moving to a new school in the sixth form has to be difficult. If it was me I think I'd be trying more to prepare for what comes after graduation than trying to fit in with a group that's already known each other for years.
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#3
It's better to feel invisible than be constantly treated like crap by your peers. i am of course speaking of the past. There isn't really anybody TO bother me nowadays.
To quote a popular werewolf film - 'Everyone's cursed.  It's called life'
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(11-16-2018, 12:42 PM)constant stranger Wrote: Moving to a new school in the sixth form has to be difficult.  If it was me I think I'd be trying more to prepare for what comes after graduation than trying to fit in with a group that's already known each other for years.

I guess but that just means that i will feel down for the next 6-7 months and I don't really want that to be the case. but thank you for your reply.

(11-16-2018, 09:20 PM)hewhowalksalone Wrote: It's better to feel invisible than be constantly treated like crap by your peers.  i am of course speaking of the past.  There isn't really anybody TO bother me nowadays.

maybe i will try to give it a try. thank you.
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#5
I think the obvious thing here is that this particular group is not what you need. I learned young that no matter how good a person you are, not everyone is going to like you. It's just a part of life we all experience. Put them behind you. Concentrate on your studies and in your down time just do what you like to do even if it's buy yourself. It's hard feeling like there's no one who cares. But that's not always true. You just have to find the ones who do.
The only advice I can offer is try to find a way to be happy alone by finding something you can be passionate about. Could be volunteering, hiking, photography, creative writing or anything you find enjoyable. Involve yourself in something that makes you happy and you may find another who will share that interest with you. I truly do hope you find what you are looking for.
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