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(04-07-2019, 04:44 AM)Enpatsu No Shakugan Wrote:
(04-07-2019, 04:42 AM)ITellYouHhwut Wrote:
(04-07-2019, 12:40 AM)Enpatsu No Shakugan Wrote:
(04-06-2019, 08:30 PM)ITellYouHhwut Wrote:
(04-06-2019, 02:27 PM)Enpatsu No Shakugan Wrote: Please don't start up with that negative romantic mindset; we already get enough of that here.
That is what this forum purports to be about. I’m just sharing my own situation. It’s not negative.
Yeah, but I’m not “already” giving up. I’m almost 30 years old. Lol
I know, but you're going in already with a give-up mindset, and like that, nothing is really going to help you.

Yeah but 30 is just a number. You still have time.

I appreciate it. Sadly, from what I’ve read about evolution and human mating/pair bonding, it doesn’t seem likely I’ll achieve mating success (as they call it in scientific terms). I’ve more or less shifted gears away from the self-improvement mindset and trying to succeed to more of a “I’ll learn to live and enjoy life without it” mindset. I think this is a better bet to focus my time and energy on.
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(04-07-2019, 04:54 AM)ITellYouHhwut Wrote:
(04-07-2019, 04:44 AM)Enpatsu No Shakugan Wrote:
(04-07-2019, 04:42 AM)ITellYouHhwut Wrote:
(04-07-2019, 12:40 AM)Enpatsu No Shakugan Wrote:
(04-06-2019, 08:30 PM)ITellYouHhwut Wrote: That is what this forum purports to be about. I’m just sharing my own situation. It’s not negative.
Yeah, but I’m not “already” giving up. I’m almost 30 years old. Lol
I know, but you're going in already with a give-up mindset, and like that, nothing is really going to help you.

Yeah but 30 is just a number. You still have time.

I appreciate it. Sadly, from what I’ve read about evolution and human mating/pair bonding, it doesn’t seem likely I’ll achieve mating success (as they call it in scientific terms). I’ve more or less shifted gears away from the self-improvement mindset and trying to succeed to more of a “I’ll learn to live and enjoy life without it” mindset. I think this is a better bet to focus my time and energy on.

But that's your problem. Self-improvement is how you wind up getting what you want. And you'll never get it if you remain hopeless that it'll never happen.
Just keep going forward day after day and you never know who you might meet.

I speak from experience here, man.
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(04-07-2019, 04:59 AM)Enpatsu No Shakugan Wrote:
(04-07-2019, 04:54 AM)ITellYouHhwut Wrote:
(04-07-2019, 04:44 AM)Enpatsu No Shakugan Wrote:
(04-07-2019, 04:42 AM)ITellYouHhwut Wrote:
(04-07-2019, 12:40 AM)Enpatsu No Shakugan Wrote: Yeah, but I’m not “already” giving up. I’m almost 30 years old. Lol
I know, but you're going in already with a give-up mindset, and like that, nothing is really going to help you.

Yeah but 30 is just a number. You still have time.

I appreciate it. Sadly, from what I’ve read about evolution and human mating/pair bonding, it doesn’t seem likely I’ll achieve mating success (as they call it in scientific terms). I’ve more or less shifted gears away from the self-improvement mindset and trying to succeed to more of a “I’ll learn to live and enjoy life without it” mindset. I think this is a better bet to focus my time and energy on.

But that's your problem. Self-improvement is how you wind up getting what you want. And you'll never get it if you remain hopeless that it'll never happen.
Just keep going forward day after day and you never know who you might meet.

I speak from experience here, man.
Hey man, I appreciate your kindness and encouragement. I’d like to discuss it further but I think I want to keep this thread light since it’s just an intro thread. If you want to pm me that’s cool.
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No problem, hit me up in a PM anytime you need me.
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Aint nothing wrong at all with the learning to live and enjoy life without it mindset. That's how I've been and I'm multitudes happier than when I was constantly worrying about it.

Sometimes it can come to you while you're focusing on other things, so win win. However for me, once things started coming to me, I just had no interest in following through. Plus I won't get with a woman unless I want to spend a large amount of time with them so I don't even begin to try and lead them on or just get laid either. I just make friends now. Though I don't go out of my way to hang out with them or anything. I like my alone time.
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