Hey guys,
I have an issue that I don't know if anyone could give any advice on? I have read several forums as a guest and this definitely seems like a supportive forum...
Well the issue is that I was talking to my boyfriend about why he is very sensitive and overreacts about small things (for example, I wanted to carry my shopping bag and not put it in my rucksack and he got ever so angry that I said no and was standoffish for the whole weekend).
After some talk and exposition we got down to the fact that everywhere he goes and at all times he can feel this internal worrying voice bubbling away, commenting on situations and making him upset. He often doesn't sleep due to his worry. When he disagrees with someone, or he perceives they have ignored him, or any kind of pressure from society he gets these worries. He says they are so strong he finds it very difficult not to listen.
I told him to write down all his worries in a notebook before he goes to bed. But not sure what other solutions there might be to this? I would just say 'Don't care what others think, just chill and live your life' but if it was that easy obviously he would have done that.
Normally he is lovely and amazing, very kind and considerate. Despite my assurances, he gets worried that I don't like him, his boss wants to sack him, etc. I don't want him to be ruled by neurosis.
I do apologise for the slightly rambling post! I have been thinking about it a lot so hope you guys can help.
Flatt7
I have an issue that I don't know if anyone could give any advice on? I have read several forums as a guest and this definitely seems like a supportive forum...
Well the issue is that I was talking to my boyfriend about why he is very sensitive and overreacts about small things (for example, I wanted to carry my shopping bag and not put it in my rucksack and he got ever so angry that I said no and was standoffish for the whole weekend).
After some talk and exposition we got down to the fact that everywhere he goes and at all times he can feel this internal worrying voice bubbling away, commenting on situations and making him upset. He often doesn't sleep due to his worry. When he disagrees with someone, or he perceives they have ignored him, or any kind of pressure from society he gets these worries. He says they are so strong he finds it very difficult not to listen.
I told him to write down all his worries in a notebook before he goes to bed. But not sure what other solutions there might be to this? I would just say 'Don't care what others think, just chill and live your life' but if it was that easy obviously he would have done that.
Normally he is lovely and amazing, very kind and considerate. Despite my assurances, he gets worried that I don't like him, his boss wants to sack him, etc. I don't want him to be ruled by neurosis.
I do apologise for the slightly rambling post! I have been thinking about it a lot so hope you guys can help.
Flatt7