armor4sleepPA
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I decided to make a resolution this new years eve. Now, mind you, I'm not one for making meaningless resolutions such as cutting back on carbs, spending less money on music, or other whimsical notions that I know will never last. Instead, I try to think of something truly worthy of my energy and focus. This year, here it is:
I'm resolving to accept emotional loneliness, along with abanonding the idea of ever finding a fulfilling relationship
I know this sounds like something said after too much alcohol or a recent breakup (or both!), but trust me when I say I've given this a lot of consideration. See, I'm in a situation where I can't leave the person I'm with, who also treats me like crap and neglects my emotional needs. We've been together nearly six years, which is about five years too many. However, the trainwreck of a relationship did result in two absolutely wonderful children whose welfare has become my sole concern. If I were to do what my few true friends suggest and actually leave her, I would have no way of financially making it work. I can't afford to break ties, even though I long to do it.
I'm also not able to ethically "cheat", even though such a term implies that there's any kind of fidelity or care on part of my counterpart. It's not the sex, (well okay maybe that's part of it), but more so, it's the emotional closeness that a real relationship can bring. I need to feel attached to someone, and I am tired of meeting nice people at work yet knowing I can never pursue anything with them. I just need to accept the fact that I will be lonely, in a sense, martyred emotionally for my children's sake.
Can this resolution work? [/i]
I'm resolving to accept emotional loneliness, along with abanonding the idea of ever finding a fulfilling relationship
I know this sounds like something said after too much alcohol or a recent breakup (or both!), but trust me when I say I've given this a lot of consideration. See, I'm in a situation where I can't leave the person I'm with, who also treats me like crap and neglects my emotional needs. We've been together nearly six years, which is about five years too many. However, the trainwreck of a relationship did result in two absolutely wonderful children whose welfare has become my sole concern. If I were to do what my few true friends suggest and actually leave her, I would have no way of financially making it work. I can't afford to break ties, even though I long to do it.
I'm also not able to ethically "cheat", even though such a term implies that there's any kind of fidelity or care on part of my counterpart. It's not the sex, (well okay maybe that's part of it), but more so, it's the emotional closeness that a real relationship can bring. I need to feel attached to someone, and I am tired of meeting nice people at work yet knowing I can never pursue anything with them. I just need to accept the fact that I will be lonely, in a sense, martyred emotionally for my children's sake.
Can this resolution work? [/i]