TheLonelyNomad
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There was a college friend of mine, whom we've met on a flight from my home town to the city where our college was located. This chartered flight was arranged by the alumni group of the college in my town area. We all got off the plane, retrieved our luggages, and waited outside at the airport pick-up area for the college's bus to pick us up. We waited nearly two hours for the freaking bus to arrive at the airport.
During the wait, I met bryce, shook hands with him, and chatted about our hobbies and high school life. I got to know him more during my freshmen and sophomore years. We occasionally met up for lunch and/or dinner in the college dining hall. He was very lucky to have a single room, whereas I struggled with my roommate, during my freshman year, because he was a frat/party animal.
The majority of the students from my hometown who attended my college were from his high school, so he had a lot of "connections" when he made the transition over to college. I was the only person from my high school to attend my college. So even if we were all from the same town or state, there were only a few people I could connect with.
During college, bryce and I had different tracks of study in college. I studied business administration, while bryce studied bio-med engineering.
Come year 2005, we both graduated from college. He stayed back to complete his master's degree program, because he could not get into medical school on his first and second attempt. Hence, he enrolled in a master's degree program, if I recall correctly, some kind of bio-med studies. I moved back home because i hated living in the big city where my college was located. Too much traffic and a-holes I could not deal with.
I moved back to home to take pre-req classes for dentistry.
bryce would occasionally take trips back home, where I was at, and we would meet up for lunch and play pool or video games together.
However, bryce would be cocky and try to "compete" with me, always trying to win a simple game of pool or some kind of video game. He ALWAYS had to beat me. F-cker.
It's as if he was trying to be superior to me, and couldn't "lose" to me.
I felt negative vibes about bryce's behavior.
A year later, I found out from bryce that he "finally" got admitted to a medical program at Rush Medical Center in Chicago.
A year after he got into Rush, I got admitted to a dental program in Iowa (Univ of Iowa). I would meet up with him by driving freaking six to seven hours to Chicago, to have dinner with him, and of course, stay over at his apartment.
More bragging rights from bryce. He bragged to me that he was dating this Korean girl in his med school class, how he has decent grades in med school etc. We also played a game of pool, and same sh-t, he always tried to win over me, have his superiority mentality. Then he asked me if I was dating, and I told him no, because I was busy with my studies and projects. Couple months later, he broke up with her. LOL!
When I asked bryce if he could drive out to Iowa City to pay me some visits in the future, because I took the effort to drive out to Chicago for seven hours STRAIGHT, he said, "eh, I will think about it." A year passed, and again, I asked him to drive out to visit me. He made excuses that he was busy, and he was not good at long-distance driving.
My negative vibe/ radar went off. Because if bryce was a real friend, then he would have taken the time and effort to drive out to visit me. Note too that I have driven out to Chicago TWICE, to visit him.
Two years into my program, my mother was involved in a head-on collision auto accident back at home. I also did not feel connected to my classmates and some of the instructors within my dental program were really mean, racist and discriminatory. Hence, I withdrew from the program and moved back home because I was really depressed.
I took care of my mother for about a month. Thank God that she never died or get severely injured from the accident.
I then switched into another program within my home state.
When I moved back home, we also moved out of our former house, and into a brand new two-story house in another area, inside the downtown area. Lovely location.
Came Christmas/winter season of 2011, bryce decided to take a trip back home to visit his parents, and eh, also visit me for a lunch get-together.
I told him that i no longer had a car, since it was four months after moving back home from Iowa. Hence, I told him to pick me up at my new house.
When he picked me up at my new house, he held up his smart phone, and showed me his "Zillow" real estate app.
He said for me to look at the Zillow app, as even if my (actually parents') five-bedroom house was nice and new, his folks' old one-story three-bedroom brick house was worth more. WTF was that for?
Again, his "I'm better than you" mentality. That really irked me.
Note though, that we rent our downstair unit, which is potential income for my parents, where as bryce has a one-story house, old looking, and has a slightly higher value, because of his neighborhood.
Fast forward to July 2012, bryce got married to his GF, cindy, in my home town. I was mailed an invitation to attend his wedding and wedding dinner at a lavish/expensive hotel (again, him showing off his parents' wealth). I mailed him $40.00 as a gift, because I was still in school, and literally, not working at that time. So I did not have a lot of money to dole out. But hey, at least I gave bryce something for his wedding.
When I went to his wedding, his "other" friends and his siblings, younger sister and older brother, gave me stink eyes. I then found out later, through the grape vine, that the $40.00 was insufficient compared to the "larger" amounts he got from his "wealthy" relatives. Basically, bryce was not happy that I gave him $40.00. Ah, boo hoo!
At his wedding dinner, I was seated at a separate table, FAR away from the main table where bryce and his bride, cindy, as well as his "good" friends were seated.
I say "good" friends because these so-called friends of bryce were general surgeons and doctors/physicians. I guess bryce had a "hierarchy" of friends, and I was a low-ranking sh-tty friend, and found out that dirty/ugly reality at his wedding dinner.
After everybody at the wedding party ate their dinner, bryce's parents and cindy's parents had a slide show presentation. The slide show presentation had pictures from bryce's childhood to his high school years, his college years, and many pictures of him and cindy going on trips to mexico, france, india, taiwan, etc. He showed plenty of pictures of his college roommates, many of them who probably were smart enough to cut their friend ties with him, as NONE of them showed up to his wedding ceremony or party.
Then, *gasp*, his slide show presentation only showed ONE freaking picture of me. Wow, just wow! Then he had numerous numbers of photos of him with his physician friends - the ones who got to sit next to him and cindy at the dinner. *shakes head*
Stupid me, I still kept in touch with him, and sent him Starbucks gift card for Christmas gifts. The last time I sent him a Christmas gift was in Dec 2013.
Fast foward to Aug 2014, I graduated from my nurse practitioner program in May of last year, and bryce was going to be in town visiting his parents and relatives. Hence, we met up for lunch in August of last year. However, compared to the past where I was eager to meet up with him, I was hesitant to meet up with him, last year.
I forgot to state earlier that when we have met up for lunch or dinner get-togethers in the past, we usually split the meal cost between us two.
Guess what? The lunch conversation was all about him, him and himself. Did I say himself?!
Yup, all about bryce finishing his anesthesiology program, and becoming a "wealthy" doctor. Him and his "oh, anesthesiologists make $300K on average."
He also bragged about him and his wife, cindy, buying a "large mansion" somewhere in Seattle, WA.
Then bryce had to rub it in my face that "Starbucks gift cards are not valuable," because his wife, cindy, got a lot of them from her clients at her work place.
This was to rub it in my face that my Starbucks gift cards for Christmas, were worthless.
Then the meal check came from the waitress after we completed our lunch. I then took out cash in the amount for my portion of the lunch meal. Then bryce said, "what, you aren't going to buy me lunch?" Seriously kid?!!
He ended up being sulky and paid for both of our lunch with his "platinum" credit card.
That was the last time I met with bryce, or heard from him. He really pissed me off that day expecting me to pay for the full lunch.
When it was Christmas of 2014, I didn't even bother sending him anything.
Especially since he rubbed it in my face that the Starbucks gift cards that I mailed him were "worthless."
Sorry fellow SAS brothers and sisters, I know this is a very long and winded posting of mine.
But I am sick and tired of so-called "friends" who try to take advantage of you, or look down on you, because he or she has better qualities or resources, in life. I should have known better and had the courage to cut ties.
However, in the past, I was very concerned about the "number" of friends I had, versus the "quality" of friends in my circle.
Yes, bryce is a doctor, and he is married with a wife, and maybe already has a child by now. Me? I am still beginning my career working at a hospital, and not even at my career goal yet (read my other threads). I am not even married yet, but just dating somebody whom my mother's friend recommended I date.
I have a small limited pool of friends, maybe because I'm nit-picky. But there are times, such as with the example of bryce, where I just have to cut my ties with fake two-faced friends.
And because of me now being more vigilant and picky about whom I hang out with or whom I can truly call a friend, I have a few/small number of real friends that I can truly trust.
During the wait, I met bryce, shook hands with him, and chatted about our hobbies and high school life. I got to know him more during my freshmen and sophomore years. We occasionally met up for lunch and/or dinner in the college dining hall. He was very lucky to have a single room, whereas I struggled with my roommate, during my freshman year, because he was a frat/party animal.
The majority of the students from my hometown who attended my college were from his high school, so he had a lot of "connections" when he made the transition over to college. I was the only person from my high school to attend my college. So even if we were all from the same town or state, there were only a few people I could connect with.
During college, bryce and I had different tracks of study in college. I studied business administration, while bryce studied bio-med engineering.
Come year 2005, we both graduated from college. He stayed back to complete his master's degree program, because he could not get into medical school on his first and second attempt. Hence, he enrolled in a master's degree program, if I recall correctly, some kind of bio-med studies. I moved back home because i hated living in the big city where my college was located. Too much traffic and a-holes I could not deal with.
I moved back to home to take pre-req classes for dentistry.
bryce would occasionally take trips back home, where I was at, and we would meet up for lunch and play pool or video games together.
However, bryce would be cocky and try to "compete" with me, always trying to win a simple game of pool or some kind of video game. He ALWAYS had to beat me. F-cker.
It's as if he was trying to be superior to me, and couldn't "lose" to me.
I felt negative vibes about bryce's behavior.
A year later, I found out from bryce that he "finally" got admitted to a medical program at Rush Medical Center in Chicago.
A year after he got into Rush, I got admitted to a dental program in Iowa (Univ of Iowa). I would meet up with him by driving freaking six to seven hours to Chicago, to have dinner with him, and of course, stay over at his apartment.
More bragging rights from bryce. He bragged to me that he was dating this Korean girl in his med school class, how he has decent grades in med school etc. We also played a game of pool, and same sh-t, he always tried to win over me, have his superiority mentality. Then he asked me if I was dating, and I told him no, because I was busy with my studies and projects. Couple months later, he broke up with her. LOL!
When I asked bryce if he could drive out to Iowa City to pay me some visits in the future, because I took the effort to drive out to Chicago for seven hours STRAIGHT, he said, "eh, I will think about it." A year passed, and again, I asked him to drive out to visit me. He made excuses that he was busy, and he was not good at long-distance driving.
My negative vibe/ radar went off. Because if bryce was a real friend, then he would have taken the time and effort to drive out to visit me. Note too that I have driven out to Chicago TWICE, to visit him.
Two years into my program, my mother was involved in a head-on collision auto accident back at home. I also did not feel connected to my classmates and some of the instructors within my dental program were really mean, racist and discriminatory. Hence, I withdrew from the program and moved back home because I was really depressed.
I took care of my mother for about a month. Thank God that she never died or get severely injured from the accident.
I then switched into another program within my home state.
When I moved back home, we also moved out of our former house, and into a brand new two-story house in another area, inside the downtown area. Lovely location.
Came Christmas/winter season of 2011, bryce decided to take a trip back home to visit his parents, and eh, also visit me for a lunch get-together.
I told him that i no longer had a car, since it was four months after moving back home from Iowa. Hence, I told him to pick me up at my new house.
When he picked me up at my new house, he held up his smart phone, and showed me his "Zillow" real estate app.
He said for me to look at the Zillow app, as even if my (actually parents') five-bedroom house was nice and new, his folks' old one-story three-bedroom brick house was worth more. WTF was that for?
Again, his "I'm better than you" mentality. That really irked me.
Note though, that we rent our downstair unit, which is potential income for my parents, where as bryce has a one-story house, old looking, and has a slightly higher value, because of his neighborhood.
Fast forward to July 2012, bryce got married to his GF, cindy, in my home town. I was mailed an invitation to attend his wedding and wedding dinner at a lavish/expensive hotel (again, him showing off his parents' wealth). I mailed him $40.00 as a gift, because I was still in school, and literally, not working at that time. So I did not have a lot of money to dole out. But hey, at least I gave bryce something for his wedding.
When I went to his wedding, his "other" friends and his siblings, younger sister and older brother, gave me stink eyes. I then found out later, through the grape vine, that the $40.00 was insufficient compared to the "larger" amounts he got from his "wealthy" relatives. Basically, bryce was not happy that I gave him $40.00. Ah, boo hoo!
At his wedding dinner, I was seated at a separate table, FAR away from the main table where bryce and his bride, cindy, as well as his "good" friends were seated.
I say "good" friends because these so-called friends of bryce were general surgeons and doctors/physicians. I guess bryce had a "hierarchy" of friends, and I was a low-ranking sh-tty friend, and found out that dirty/ugly reality at his wedding dinner.
After everybody at the wedding party ate their dinner, bryce's parents and cindy's parents had a slide show presentation. The slide show presentation had pictures from bryce's childhood to his high school years, his college years, and many pictures of him and cindy going on trips to mexico, france, india, taiwan, etc. He showed plenty of pictures of his college roommates, many of them who probably were smart enough to cut their friend ties with him, as NONE of them showed up to his wedding ceremony or party.
Then, *gasp*, his slide show presentation only showed ONE freaking picture of me. Wow, just wow! Then he had numerous numbers of photos of him with his physician friends - the ones who got to sit next to him and cindy at the dinner. *shakes head*
Stupid me, I still kept in touch with him, and sent him Starbucks gift card for Christmas gifts. The last time I sent him a Christmas gift was in Dec 2013.
Fast foward to Aug 2014, I graduated from my nurse practitioner program in May of last year, and bryce was going to be in town visiting his parents and relatives. Hence, we met up for lunch in August of last year. However, compared to the past where I was eager to meet up with him, I was hesitant to meet up with him, last year.
I forgot to state earlier that when we have met up for lunch or dinner get-togethers in the past, we usually split the meal cost between us two.
Guess what? The lunch conversation was all about him, him and himself. Did I say himself?!
Yup, all about bryce finishing his anesthesiology program, and becoming a "wealthy" doctor. Him and his "oh, anesthesiologists make $300K on average."
He also bragged about him and his wife, cindy, buying a "large mansion" somewhere in Seattle, WA.
Then bryce had to rub it in my face that "Starbucks gift cards are not valuable," because his wife, cindy, got a lot of them from her clients at her work place.
This was to rub it in my face that my Starbucks gift cards for Christmas, were worthless.
Then the meal check came from the waitress after we completed our lunch. I then took out cash in the amount for my portion of the lunch meal. Then bryce said, "what, you aren't going to buy me lunch?" Seriously kid?!!
He ended up being sulky and paid for both of our lunch with his "platinum" credit card.
That was the last time I met with bryce, or heard from him. He really pissed me off that day expecting me to pay for the full lunch.
When it was Christmas of 2014, I didn't even bother sending him anything.
Especially since he rubbed it in my face that the Starbucks gift cards that I mailed him were "worthless."
Sorry fellow SAS brothers and sisters, I know this is a very long and winded posting of mine.
But I am sick and tired of so-called "friends" who try to take advantage of you, or look down on you, because he or she has better qualities or resources, in life. I should have known better and had the courage to cut ties.
However, in the past, I was very concerned about the "number" of friends I had, versus the "quality" of friends in my circle.
Yes, bryce is a doctor, and he is married with a wife, and maybe already has a child by now. Me? I am still beginning my career working at a hospital, and not even at my career goal yet (read my other threads). I am not even married yet, but just dating somebody whom my mother's friend recommended I date.
I have a small limited pool of friends, maybe because I'm nit-picky. But there are times, such as with the example of bryce, where I just have to cut my ties with fake two-faced friends.
And because of me now being more vigilant and picky about whom I hang out with or whom I can truly call a friend, I have a few/small number of real friends that I can truly trust.