hi need advice for friendship

[santosh]

hi friends this is my second post here
i am from india
i am feeling very much depress now
i am 26 years of age
i have fear to talk to girl
till now i doesnt have any girlfriend to talk
its so much depressable,
by seeing other with the girl friend feel jwelous and depress and helpless
i recently proposed a girl which is the only female friend i am having
she just say no to me and say i am not accepting such from me
i am totally shattered
i just cant say any thing to her
i just scared to make friendship with girl
i feel that because of my health girls does not want to talk to me
please help
if you have any advice
please give
thanks

 

[santosh]

this forumn is new to me
i find it very interesting
from long time i feeling depression
searching for this type of forum
happy to get this forum
its now easy to share my views here

 

[Lonesome Crow]

Hi welcome to the forum.

I'm sorry you got rejected and you must FEEL devistated.
It is normal to have bad FEELINGS upon a rejection.
Rejection is some of worst FEELING a human being can experince.
Don't deny what you are FEELING. Embrace it, welcome
it with all your might. The sooner you procress it, the sooner you
will get beyound it. As devstating as it maybe processing
these feelings, it will help you become more emotionally mature
in the long run.

If you observe how your mind works...Your creative mind
will genaerate many, many negative thoughts, therefore
triggering more negative emotions. This will continue the
negative thought cycle or sometimes even creat a MIND STORM.

Acceptence is the KEY. It will put on the breaks of an out
of control mind. It will act like a light in the darkness of
your mind.

If you had done anytype of meditation. You will
had observed your mind will generate thoughts then emotions.
It happens in a split sec. There's a moment of grace.
This moment of grace is where you make your decision.
Sometimes we live our lives on auto pilot and don't
even recognize ourselves or know ourselves....
We react to our emotions and don't make good chioces.

Perhapse you can try to reverse this process with
possitive reinforcements. Make a gradtitute list.
Make list of things you have in your life already.
This will help your mind shift focus from lack or wanting.
Maybe you can take little simple steps of improving your
life. Perhapse clean or alter your living envirnment.
As corny as it maybe....Clean House.
This will get you started in taking possitive ACTIONS in you life.
Do the best with what you have.

You are a child of god..you have the right to be here, no more
nor no less than the moons and stars.

A quote I read from somewhere.
"My devesation had brought out the best in me."

Nameste

 

[Sanal]

hey dude. Welcome to the forum. Sorry to hear bout that.
I understand you perfectly and when I say I understand you, I really mean it. I do know the feeling of not being loved coz I m from india too and I feel shitty to say this that India is perhaps the only country where you see men at their 40s who are still virgins.

Btw which part of India are you from?. I am from the south

 

[santosh]

lonesome crow thanks for ur advice
and thanks sanal for listening my problem
any way i am from mumbai
happy to be hear

 

[Sanal]

Nice to meet you Santosh. I was supposed to come to mumbai last saturday for an interview. They informed me late and I didnt get tickets as it was a weekend. I belong to Kerala but I m in Banglore from some years.

 

[Steel]

Hey, and welcome

 

[everythingman]

hey santosh