Crew99 said:
It's not like we can change it but we have some power of choosing how we react to it. BUt if someone's THAT traumatized (having nightmare living in fear) i beg to differ that these people ever CHOOSE to be that way. They were just conditioned and molded to think, feel and act that way.
Yes well I think there is a choice on how to deal with things but sometimes after hit with something so traumatising, sometimes it's too traumatising (the word is starting to look real weird to me) to even know how to react. Like you're clueless, everything seems blurry and blocked. Hard to think. I had my "trauma" late last year, I was numb a few months after, cried a lot the next few months, and only got to think really clear later on (which is only just recently).
All I'm saying is, yes there's a choice, but sometimes trauma, being trauma
, numbs you, pains you and does whatever to you in a way that you can't have any control of, especially how to react and the emotions you get from it. I think it more depends on what type of trauma one is experiencing.
Crew99 said:
But it's hard to think that way when you already have a negative outlook and bad experiences all the time. Some brush with luck and better opportunities need to arise so people can at least find new experiences to fight off their past ones and maybe eventually get rid of the trauma all together.
I think when you get many bad experiences, that's when you can fight off things much better cos through these many bad experience, you should learn something or some things. Makes you a stronger person, if you know how to take it and when you pull through each one over time. I've had bad experiences in life all the time since I was a kid, it drives me crazy to just want some happiness now but then I'm still thankful for all the pain cos only through all those ordeals I get to learn things and understand things some people don't. Makes you mature faster (or age faster? lol
)
I'm thinking opposite lol..sorry though, no offence to anyone just speaking my mind