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BlackSheep
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Hi. To be honest, I have no idea why I'm writing this... Well, that's not entirely true. I'm tired of writing stuff in my diary and if I don't let things out, at least a little bit, I'm gonna implode. So my sincerest appologies for involving others (anyone who cares to read this). Here's a bit of the sordid story:
I am nearly 25, and I am truely tired of being lonely. I lived in a number of countries while growing up and sure, I've seen some amazing things and met some amazing people. But moving around meant that I didn't really connect with many. And my ability to connect seems to have faded with time. But having read some of the threads here, I feel guilty about writing this stuff - seems like I'm whining about my perfect life.
I have friends - problem is, they are all over the world and in this country, there're all in another city. I have no friends here - at least no one I can really talk to. The bigger problem is that I can't seem to make friends. I'm not what one might call an absolute social outcast, there are groups that I belong to... but right now, I just want to hide which is very counter effective.
Making crazy decisions seems to be my cup of tea - so I am currently doing a PhD. I'm not smart, so I really don't know what/why I'm doing right now. I moved cities because I didn't want to get a job with the degree I had, and there was a research option at this cool company.That's not the problem though, the problem is this sick feeling that I will always be alone. I used to be real chatty, but now I don't know what to say to people, or how to start a conversation. I go to work, sit there for 8 hours, writing reports or papers and stuff, and I rarely connect. People around me are really nice, but I just can't get myself to open up, let my guard down. I don't even know why my guard is up...
No one on this planet knows the real me, (not even my parent, even though they think they do). I really didn't give a toss about being alone before, but it's beginning to get to me. My mantra was 'I stand alone' specially when it comes to guys, but that's getting tired! I am tired of pretending that life's great, cause it actually sucks. I've stopped 'living' and now am just 'existing'. And I can't believe that even though there are 6 billion people on the planet, I am so very alone.
One more complication, I met this great guy a while back, and while he was pretty nice, he wanted things to move fast - way too fast. So I ran for the hills! Running and hiding - I'm great at that, making excuses, even better.
I have a great family who care about me (most of the time). I am the first-born, the one who's supposed to draw the map for the others, and I think I've done that ok - my siblings are at university, and hopefully well balanced. But somewhere between being the leader and the responsible one, I forgot to take some time out... so now I'm stuck.
I'm not trying to feel good on other people's problems, and I'm not after sympathy, but are these feelings normal? If anyone's gotten over this kind of thing, please, please give me some ideas...
I am nearly 25, and I am truely tired of being lonely. I lived in a number of countries while growing up and sure, I've seen some amazing things and met some amazing people. But moving around meant that I didn't really connect with many. And my ability to connect seems to have faded with time. But having read some of the threads here, I feel guilty about writing this stuff - seems like I'm whining about my perfect life.
I have friends - problem is, they are all over the world and in this country, there're all in another city. I have no friends here - at least no one I can really talk to. The bigger problem is that I can't seem to make friends. I'm not what one might call an absolute social outcast, there are groups that I belong to... but right now, I just want to hide which is very counter effective.
Making crazy decisions seems to be my cup of tea - so I am currently doing a PhD. I'm not smart, so I really don't know what/why I'm doing right now. I moved cities because I didn't want to get a job with the degree I had, and there was a research option at this cool company.That's not the problem though, the problem is this sick feeling that I will always be alone. I used to be real chatty, but now I don't know what to say to people, or how to start a conversation. I go to work, sit there for 8 hours, writing reports or papers and stuff, and I rarely connect. People around me are really nice, but I just can't get myself to open up, let my guard down. I don't even know why my guard is up...
No one on this planet knows the real me, (not even my parent, even though they think they do). I really didn't give a toss about being alone before, but it's beginning to get to me. My mantra was 'I stand alone' specially when it comes to guys, but that's getting tired! I am tired of pretending that life's great, cause it actually sucks. I've stopped 'living' and now am just 'existing'. And I can't believe that even though there are 6 billion people on the planet, I am so very alone.
One more complication, I met this great guy a while back, and while he was pretty nice, he wanted things to move fast - way too fast. So I ran for the hills! Running and hiding - I'm great at that, making excuses, even better.
I have a great family who care about me (most of the time). I am the first-born, the one who's supposed to draw the map for the others, and I think I've done that ok - my siblings are at university, and hopefully well balanced. But somewhere between being the leader and the responsible one, I forgot to take some time out... so now I'm stuck.
I'm not trying to feel good on other people's problems, and I'm not after sympathy, but are these feelings normal? If anyone's gotten over this kind of thing, please, please give me some ideas...