RJLJD
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I apologize in advance because I'm about to basically write a novel, but I would appreciate it if I could get some thoughts and opinions.
Just to recap for those that haven't read threads from me before: 21 years old, live at home, commute to college, senior in college, have my old friends i still have the pleasure of associating with but have trouble making new friends, bigger issue to me is never having a girlfriend or any experience with women. that's what this thread is about.
I write this today feeling frustrated, because I don't know what to do, and there is a specific story and instance why.
There's a girl at my school that I have an inkling may be interested in me. She was in one of my classes spring semester of my sophomore year, that's when I first noticed her, but there wasn't much more to that. What this story is really about though is that starting last fall there have been instances where I'd see her around campus, where I'd be walking to class, and she would be too presumably, but she would be walking on the same sidewalk in the opposite direction. And I swear, if I had to guess over the past year or so this has happened a total of 11 or 12 times, and each time its happened she does almost the same exact thing. She looks me right in the eye and gives me a very pleasant smile as we cross paths (several of these times being at about 7:45 in the morning). The last time it happened, a couple of weeks ago, she gave me a smile and then a brief "hello". I said hello back, but that was the end of it.
I don't know if she's just an inherently pleasant, smiley, morning person, or if maybe she is purposely trying to leave an impression. To be honest, I kinda hope its the latter because I think she is really cute. One problem is though that I know so little about her. What I know is: her name, she seems very pleasant and friendly, I remember her seeming pretty smart in the class we had together, and the class he had was a requisite for all Health/Physical Education majors (athletic training, physical therapy, sport management, etc.), meaning she probably likes athletics/sports, just like me.
That's about all I know about her.
Regardless, I think I'd like to approach her and at least talk to her, but I have issues with it. First is the fact that I am so shy and inexperienced. To be honest, I'm just a little afraid. What if I was just misinterpreting everything and I make a fool of myself? The second issue is just as big if not bigger though, I feel like my best bet to succeed would be to at least be prepared in some way... have an idea of what I'm going to say, when I will say it, where I will be, what my situation is, and so on. The only way I'm going to see her is by mere chance though, which means I'm basically flying by the seat of my pants. I don't like it, I feel like that's when I'm at my worst when verbally communicating. I don't think I have another option though.
One last thing to add that somewhat illustrates that idea. I saw her yesterday (kinda what brought my frustration to a head). I was working with a group partner on a project for one of our classes, and we were in the computer lab which is this open area next to a lounge, there's a big doorway where the two areas kinda turn into each other. Well, she was sitting on a table in that walkway with presumably a friend of her's talking. My partner and I were in the middle of our work when I noticed her there, and I thought about getting up and trying to approach/say hello to her, but I felt weird about just getting up, mid-work and talking to her in plain sight of him. I kept glancing over at her though (she was probably there about 15 minutes), and I couldn't tell for sure but I think she might have glanced at me a couple times too (it might have just been in my head). Stuff like that just drives me insane though. I had a chance, but because it wasn't perfect on a silver platter for me, I didn't do anything about it.
I really want to give it a try and at least talk to this girl, but I know I only have so many opportunities left. Really, I'd like to be able to talk to any girl in a similar situation, but with my current state of mind, its not going to happen.
I need help I think.
Just to recap for those that haven't read threads from me before: 21 years old, live at home, commute to college, senior in college, have my old friends i still have the pleasure of associating with but have trouble making new friends, bigger issue to me is never having a girlfriend or any experience with women. that's what this thread is about.
I write this today feeling frustrated, because I don't know what to do, and there is a specific story and instance why.
There's a girl at my school that I have an inkling may be interested in me. She was in one of my classes spring semester of my sophomore year, that's when I first noticed her, but there wasn't much more to that. What this story is really about though is that starting last fall there have been instances where I'd see her around campus, where I'd be walking to class, and she would be too presumably, but she would be walking on the same sidewalk in the opposite direction. And I swear, if I had to guess over the past year or so this has happened a total of 11 or 12 times, and each time its happened she does almost the same exact thing. She looks me right in the eye and gives me a very pleasant smile as we cross paths (several of these times being at about 7:45 in the morning). The last time it happened, a couple of weeks ago, she gave me a smile and then a brief "hello". I said hello back, but that was the end of it.
I don't know if she's just an inherently pleasant, smiley, morning person, or if maybe she is purposely trying to leave an impression. To be honest, I kinda hope its the latter because I think she is really cute. One problem is though that I know so little about her. What I know is: her name, she seems very pleasant and friendly, I remember her seeming pretty smart in the class we had together, and the class he had was a requisite for all Health/Physical Education majors (athletic training, physical therapy, sport management, etc.), meaning she probably likes athletics/sports, just like me.
That's about all I know about her.
Regardless, I think I'd like to approach her and at least talk to her, but I have issues with it. First is the fact that I am so shy and inexperienced. To be honest, I'm just a little afraid. What if I was just misinterpreting everything and I make a fool of myself? The second issue is just as big if not bigger though, I feel like my best bet to succeed would be to at least be prepared in some way... have an idea of what I'm going to say, when I will say it, where I will be, what my situation is, and so on. The only way I'm going to see her is by mere chance though, which means I'm basically flying by the seat of my pants. I don't like it, I feel like that's when I'm at my worst when verbally communicating. I don't think I have another option though.
One last thing to add that somewhat illustrates that idea. I saw her yesterday (kinda what brought my frustration to a head). I was working with a group partner on a project for one of our classes, and we were in the computer lab which is this open area next to a lounge, there's a big doorway where the two areas kinda turn into each other. Well, she was sitting on a table in that walkway with presumably a friend of her's talking. My partner and I were in the middle of our work when I noticed her there, and I thought about getting up and trying to approach/say hello to her, but I felt weird about just getting up, mid-work and talking to her in plain sight of him. I kept glancing over at her though (she was probably there about 15 minutes), and I couldn't tell for sure but I think she might have glanced at me a couple times too (it might have just been in my head). Stuff like that just drives me insane though. I had a chance, but because it wasn't perfect on a silver platter for me, I didn't do anything about it.
I really want to give it a try and at least talk to this girl, but I know I only have so many opportunities left. Really, I'd like to be able to talk to any girl in a similar situation, but with my current state of mind, its not going to happen.
I need help I think.
