Merieth
Well-known member
hello everyone, i just joined these forums today so i thought i would make a couple posts.
well, where do i start? i have tried online dating in the past, but it never seemed to work out. but, i am still hopeful that i will have some luck. if you don't like online dating, please dont tell me that i am stupid for believing in it =(
anyways, the people i have dated online in the past were not from dating websites, but from online games. so right there, we had something in common. i "dated" some of them for over 2 years, but nothing ever worked out. i can see clearly the mistakes i have made, but most of the guys were no good, and just looking to take advantage of me. (or so i felt)
i have been told that online dating is silly and never can work out, and as soon as i slightly start to believe that, i meet another person online that seems really nice; this is the situation i am in right now, so please give me some advice if you can, because i really have no idea what to think.
basically, about a month and a half ago, i met someone over this website called DeviantArt... i noticed that his avatar was of my favorite game character, so I started talking to him, and quickly we found that we have a lot in common and so we spent lots of time together talking every day.
he is always very kind to me and treats me nicely and makes me laugh, and he really listens to me when im talking and cares about what i am saying. we always have long and interesting conversations and play online games together often and it is very fun to see that our teamwork often leads us to victory
then, maybe a few weeks ago, i started developing a crush on him... because we have so much in common, and it's always so much fun talking to him -- we connect so well and always make each other happy and cheerful even if one of us is sad. i waited until recently to tell him, because he said he is the kind of person who "doesn't like to make the first move" -- he has never been in a relationship before, and when i told him how much he means to me and that i have a crush on him, he really didnt know what to say.
i asked how he felt, and he told me he didnt know. he said he couldnt answer me yet.
i know i shouldnt worry about whether or not he feels the same, but sometimes i find myself wondering about it, and since i dont have many friends, i have low self esteem about myself at times.
he spends lots of time with me and treats me very sweetly and always "*hugs*" me before going to sleep.
I am happy that he is my friend, but I can't help but have a crush on him just because of how much we have in common and how much of a great person he is.
anyway, I am open to advice and suggestions (please dont be harsh..im really sensitive) when it comes to what you think i should do.
i also have a couple questions for the guys out there-
is it true that some guys do not understand their feelings and cant make up their mind?
what is it that a guy values most in a girl? (i know guys dont like controlling girls and im not like that)
do you think that he may have some feelings for me? or should i just play it cool and not say anything again for a few more months?
what kinds of things should i look out for to get a better idea of how he feels?
thats all i can think of for now.
i am always myself around him, i never try to put on some fake act or whatever.. so i am always honest with how i feel (usually i am pretty upbeat, but lately i have been slightly stressing about some things in my life, but im not letting it get me down ^^)
thank you for reading, im sorry it was so long, i just wanted to get everything written down.
well, where do i start? i have tried online dating in the past, but it never seemed to work out. but, i am still hopeful that i will have some luck. if you don't like online dating, please dont tell me that i am stupid for believing in it =(
anyways, the people i have dated online in the past were not from dating websites, but from online games. so right there, we had something in common. i "dated" some of them for over 2 years, but nothing ever worked out. i can see clearly the mistakes i have made, but most of the guys were no good, and just looking to take advantage of me. (or so i felt)
i have been told that online dating is silly and never can work out, and as soon as i slightly start to believe that, i meet another person online that seems really nice; this is the situation i am in right now, so please give me some advice if you can, because i really have no idea what to think.
basically, about a month and a half ago, i met someone over this website called DeviantArt... i noticed that his avatar was of my favorite game character, so I started talking to him, and quickly we found that we have a lot in common and so we spent lots of time together talking every day.
he is always very kind to me and treats me nicely and makes me laugh, and he really listens to me when im talking and cares about what i am saying. we always have long and interesting conversations and play online games together often and it is very fun to see that our teamwork often leads us to victory
then, maybe a few weeks ago, i started developing a crush on him... because we have so much in common, and it's always so much fun talking to him -- we connect so well and always make each other happy and cheerful even if one of us is sad. i waited until recently to tell him, because he said he is the kind of person who "doesn't like to make the first move" -- he has never been in a relationship before, and when i told him how much he means to me and that i have a crush on him, he really didnt know what to say.
i asked how he felt, and he told me he didnt know. he said he couldnt answer me yet.
i know i shouldnt worry about whether or not he feels the same, but sometimes i find myself wondering about it, and since i dont have many friends, i have low self esteem about myself at times.
he spends lots of time with me and treats me very sweetly and always "*hugs*" me before going to sleep.
I am happy that he is my friend, but I can't help but have a crush on him just because of how much we have in common and how much of a great person he is.
anyway, I am open to advice and suggestions (please dont be harsh..im really sensitive) when it comes to what you think i should do.
i also have a couple questions for the guys out there-
is it true that some guys do not understand their feelings and cant make up their mind?
what is it that a guy values most in a girl? (i know guys dont like controlling girls and im not like that)
do you think that he may have some feelings for me? or should i just play it cool and not say anything again for a few more months?
what kinds of things should i look out for to get a better idea of how he feels?
thats all i can think of for now.
i am always myself around him, i never try to put on some fake act or whatever.. so i am always honest with how i feel (usually i am pretty upbeat, but lately i have been slightly stressing about some things in my life, but im not letting it get me down ^^)
thank you for reading, im sorry it was so long, i just wanted to get everything written down.