It's online dating that is stupid, not the question (ok, maybe a little bit)
in these things I am really missing some basic behaviours that I should have learned in high school or something, for everyone I know it's so obvious how to behave and instead I have no clue and I have to wad through doubts.
Most probably this is going nowhere, but:
I found someone online that I actually fancy, but I am still not sure that he is not deeply disturbed or a player (as 100% of those who I fancy, sometimes even just by looking at a picture, so it's not just bad taste, it's also destiny) and I am terribly afraid not to see the signs that should send me running.
This one seemed pretty honest about himself, even disclosing pieces of his real identity real name and phone number, we exchanged some messages (not a lot), he writes long messages about how he dreams of a relationship, and already from that I started thinking "player" but many guys, also on this forum, dream of a relationship so saying that doesn't make him automatically a player.
Anyway, I tried to drop in the conversation that I didn't enjoy writing messages very much, also because there is no real communication, and I think that my messages don't give a clue about my real personality, and suggested that "finally I make him hear my accent" meaning phone or Facebook or whatever but that was probably too subtle for a guy to understand.
To this email he replied only 4 days later (usually it was only a day or so) and no mention of talking or chatting.
How do I tell him that I don't want to spend time writing anymore?
Meeting is not an option as he lives in a city where I will go only end of july, I wouldn't mind him coming to visit but I think it's way too early to suggest it.
Does it look like I am desperate to push things forward because i want to talk or chat? I just want to know him better to see if he is a psycho
I really think all this writing is giving unrealistic impressions to everyone. And he doesn't seem that interested in knowing me more, as he seems happy with these messages.
Or should I just say: ok let's wait to meet this summer? but I liked his letters and company, I don't want him to think I am not interested.
What would be the right behaviour, in case he is a honest guy who is not just trying to string me along in the most useless way (online)?
I am so good at giving suggestions to others and when it comes to myself I am clueless.
in these things I am really missing some basic behaviours that I should have learned in high school or something, for everyone I know it's so obvious how to behave and instead I have no clue and I have to wad through doubts.
Most probably this is going nowhere, but:
I found someone online that I actually fancy, but I am still not sure that he is not deeply disturbed or a player (as 100% of those who I fancy, sometimes even just by looking at a picture, so it's not just bad taste, it's also destiny) and I am terribly afraid not to see the signs that should send me running.
This one seemed pretty honest about himself, even disclosing pieces of his real identity real name and phone number, we exchanged some messages (not a lot), he writes long messages about how he dreams of a relationship, and already from that I started thinking "player" but many guys, also on this forum, dream of a relationship so saying that doesn't make him automatically a player.
Anyway, I tried to drop in the conversation that I didn't enjoy writing messages very much, also because there is no real communication, and I think that my messages don't give a clue about my real personality, and suggested that "finally I make him hear my accent" meaning phone or Facebook or whatever but that was probably too subtle for a guy to understand.
To this email he replied only 4 days later (usually it was only a day or so) and no mention of talking or chatting.
How do I tell him that I don't want to spend time writing anymore?
Meeting is not an option as he lives in a city where I will go only end of july, I wouldn't mind him coming to visit but I think it's way too early to suggest it.
Does it look like I am desperate to push things forward because i want to talk or chat? I just want to know him better to see if he is a psycho
I really think all this writing is giving unrealistic impressions to everyone. And he doesn't seem that interested in knowing me more, as he seems happy with these messages.
Or should I just say: ok let's wait to meet this summer? but I liked his letters and company, I don't want him to think I am not interested.
What would be the right behaviour, in case he is a honest guy who is not just trying to string me along in the most useless way (online)?
I am so good at giving suggestions to others and when it comes to myself I am clueless.