Your mom just had a different style of motivating ya.
Sometimes you have to learn how to read between the lines..
Her intension is for you to be happy. Even though it seem so adbrasive.
What did you wanted to hear come out of her mouth ?
What would be the right words for you to attend that party?
My mother for the most part is mellow with me...but at times she will say
things to me that would cut like knives...becuase I do fustrated the honeysuckle out of her.
However..after I chilled out a little bit and look at my mother's intension, it's always
have been for my benifits. Sometimes it'll take me a day to figure it out. Sometimes
weeks...
While it's not effective 1/2 of the time becuase i get so angery with her for treating me
like a child..after all I am her child. I'll rebel and not do as she told me or ask me.
In her eyes I will always be her boy no matter how old i am.
For the most part my mother is actaully pretty calm when she's couseling me.
It's was me most of the time that gets caught up into my fears.
Yet at the sametimes..she's telling me in so many different ways to face my fears.
If I want things out of life...I must face my fears.
I get fustrated with myself and with my mother..so i do nothing...bascailly i coward without her
having to tell me..I know I ran away from my fears...
Then i get fustrated for not gettting what i wanted.
Sometimes it's best that I take Que from my sponsor...an outside party to motivate me.
This way the relationship between my mother and I dosn't get damage.
The only draw back is...my mother knows me like the back of her hands...verse
my sponsor will only know what I reveal to him.
I had an incident with the purchase of my truck recently with my mother.
It really, really tick me off that she did what she did...it made me feel like a child.
Never the less..the end result is that my mother got me the best deal for my truck.
My mother for the most part had always looked out for my best interest through out the years.
Last months she was running my ass in circles in the morning and rushing me around.
I wasn't even late for work or any of that..but she wanted me to go do it this way and that way.
I was so piss-off....i didn't go into work and said fresia it all. I stay home becuase I was pissed off.
Then i started to isolate myself and not want to deal with anything. It took me a couple of days
for me to apologize to her.
It took me a while for me to forgive her for abandenting me as a child.
i hated her for it...for a long..long time..Yet sometimes I would also yank at her guilt.
The relationship i have with my mother almost mirrors the relationships I have with all of my GFs.
I seem to pick women that has the same triats as my mother. I create my own reality this way.
There's somethings that I needed to get resolved or sometype of healing...
The women i get involve with, do love me very, very much. At the sametimes very controlling.
At the sametime will leaving me feeling abandent emotionally then physically.
I love my gf very, very much...yet at the sametime..I have the same level of hate for them.
Even Jenni...at times I hated Jenni. Even though what she was telling me was for my best interest.
I hated that.. I just wanted Jenni to be my GF and not my mom...yet it's that understanding type of love
she has for me, as my mother has for me that draws me to her.