RebeccaSarah33
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At work I've been described as 'polite', 'friendly', 'bubbly', etc.. by my coworkers and management... I guess because of that, I've had some strange encounters because I'm too afraid to tell people to piss off and leave me alone when they get strange with me.
encounter1: On halloween people typically will wear something like a hat or ears or necklace or something while wearing thier work uniform, one person even painted her face. I wore a headband with kitty ears and thats it, no face painting no tail lol. I only wore this on the day of halloween, well this one kid who works up front of the store keeps coming back and browsing but not actually shopping and tries to start conversations with me by complaining. Its really annoying because its not the kind of complaining like talking about something, its the kind where he actually wants me to do something about it, usually what he complains about is out of the question or only done for really disgruntled customers. He also stinks... really bad like straight up ass and piss, like a dirty diaper. He tries and follows me and it kinda weirds me out as I have nothing to say to him other then like "Hi, hows it going?" and now I'm even tired of saying that because he comes back in my department way too much. I'm also 8 years older then him which adds to the weirdness. On halloween he came up to me and told me that he liked my cat ears, well thats not weird so I was nice and said "thanks" and was being nice like smiling and stuff and continuing to work. He then leaned in and whispered "Are you into ******?" (I don't know what word he used, I'll never remember it as its not a word I am familiar with) I asked him to repeat it, he did, I still didn't understand what he was asking.... so I asked him to explain. LOOOL He asked me if I was into fantasy dress up?? omg.. lolloooolooooool I don't know what to say to that, I didn't want to hurt his feelings so I just said, "no, this is halloween lol" He went on his way.... ok lately now hes been appearing more frequent and really getting on my nerves. I've been trying to find excuses to leave like go to the freezer or check the items in the oven and stuff where hes not aloud to follow me. I'm not into that stuff, I told him I'm not, I'm not even interested in shooting the breeze with this kid because he smells so awful but I'm too nice to tell him to go away LOL but I really do want him to go away, and now for the past two days hes been following me and asking me "So hows my little Otaku today?" lol omg, I'm gonna look up that word.
...(few minutes later) lol I looked up Otaku, I guess hes trying to call me an animae girl or something??? I don't really know. But I sure don't respond when he calls me that... I don't like it LOL I do want him to go away, I guess me looking like I'm under 18 doesn't help with this.., I don't know what to do, its becomming too frequent and makes me feel uncomfortable at work like when I see him coming from a distance I go hide in the freezer for a minute. I don't know what to do
encounter2: Theres this older guy at work that seems nice and stuff, he came to talk to me one day and tell me that he spoke with my mother. I asked him, 'How did you know she was my mother?' I guess she introduced herself because his description of her had to be her. He saw her work jacket and asked her about her job. So when he was talking to me he told me about how she gave him a website address to apply for a job with that company but he misplaced it and couldn't remember and he would greatly appreciate it if I could get it from her, I said Ok and told him what I thought it might be... maybe he could google it and find out lol. Well, I meant to ask her, I don't see her very often and when I do its not the first thing on my mind when I see her. I saw this guy again and he asked me if I had spoken with my mom, no I hadn't, he was polite and reminded me that he might get laid off from his other job so he would like to apply with this one if he could. So... some time passed, I forgot again lol. He approached me again and asked if I had talked with my mom about this website, lol no I hadn't I forgot, so then he was still polite and asked me to please get this information if I could lol... again I told him what I think the web address is but he didn't seem to think that it was the same as what my mom told him, and I guess he doesnt think that googling a job title or company name will help him find the right web address. I really tried to remember but I forgot again LOL. Its just not on my mind... He approached me again... this time not so nice kinda stern, telling me that his other job is most likely gonna lay him off and that this web address is really gonna help him out, so just so I don't forget, I tell him that I'll call her as soon as my shift is over and ask her, he'd still be working and I could give it to him and be done with this. lol guess what!!! I forgooot!! I completely forgot about it and left the building! Yea I feel bad about it but, lol, this stuff happens. Sooooo...... the next time I saw him off in the distance I immediately remembered and I avoided him all day hoping that I would see my mom before my next shift and get the info from her. I forgot to LOL. SOOOOOOO...... yesterday.... He comes over to my department, I'm packaging turnovers... hes really extra scary and mad, and he tells me that he REALLY NEEDS THIS WEBSITE ADDRESS BECAUSE HE IS GOING TO GET LAID OFF OMG LOL, he was really mad... he talked over me almost like I'm getting scolded, I felt the side of my head being pierced with his glaring eyes... it was extremely awkward. There was alot of silence and alot of him glaring at me in silence waiting for me to come up with something to say, but everytime I was going to say something like "I'm sorry I forgot, I'll really try to remember this time" ...he would talk over me, he told me a long sad story of his other job and the lack of business that they are doing and how its going to affect him... he stared at me in silence for about 2 straight minutes which feels like an eternity when hes like glaring like melting the skin on my face with his lazer beam eyes... lol it was extremely awkward and kind of scary the way he was almost yelling at me for his lack of another job and lack of willingness to use google and lack of looking into other companies for jobs. Its been over 2 months since he first talked with my mom, he can't find a website on his own or other companies to apply to in 2 months? The other lady in my department watched as he glared at me from back in the kitchen and told me how weird she thought it was without me saying anything to her first. Soooo..... I go home that night and actually remembered!! I got a note from my mom with the website address on it, lol and guess what I did... I forgot the note today.... LOOOOL I saw him off in the distance and was scared because he was coming this way so I hid in the back in the storage closet LOOOOL. The other lady that was there when he glared at me yesterday was there again and she helped me hide from him. She told me when the coast was clear, and told me that he stood there waiting for a couple minutes to see if I'd come back, then he got frustraited and asked her if she was the only one working today, lol her response was "On this side of the kitchen yea" So then when it was safe to come out, i started working... I noticed he left his donut bag behind purposefully so that he would have to come back and get it... I felt really scared!! I saw him coming in the distance and I went back in the kitchen and took the back passage to the otherside of the store and went in the freezer down there, just standing in it with nothing to get so I grabbed some random frozen product hoping that it needed to be restocked, because I didn't want to look like I went down there for nothing, so I start to walk back and I see him in the back passage way but he wasn't facing me so I turned and ran around the corner and walked back through the store. omg I felt like I was being hunted down. I got like a sick feeling in my stomach if I had eaten anything I'd probably get sick but I hadn't yet. It was really stressful LOL. So then... LOL he hunted me down and kinda cornered me up against some rolling carts and I just made up a web adress that I think is right... I sure hope its right because I just couldn't tell him I forgot again, its too scary to.... he went on his way.
is this normal behavior?? Should I get mean?? I don't know what to do but its really awkward!!!!! I feel like my behavior is somewhat abnormal too, lol hiding in freezers and closets and things, I'm just not that bold to face scary mad people. My coworker thinks I should tell a manager, but I don't know if thats ok, it just doesn't feel serious enough for that.
I have issues dealing with angry people.... after one of my exes used to tie me to the table or desk and hit me with the belt of a bathrobe and throw objects at me with his rage and anger over life... I just can't deal well with angry people I get scared it brings back flashbacks in my mind when someone gets in my face and talks sternly and loudly its so awkward I almost panic.
encounter1: On halloween people typically will wear something like a hat or ears or necklace or something while wearing thier work uniform, one person even painted her face. I wore a headband with kitty ears and thats it, no face painting no tail lol. I only wore this on the day of halloween, well this one kid who works up front of the store keeps coming back and browsing but not actually shopping and tries to start conversations with me by complaining. Its really annoying because its not the kind of complaining like talking about something, its the kind where he actually wants me to do something about it, usually what he complains about is out of the question or only done for really disgruntled customers. He also stinks... really bad like straight up ass and piss, like a dirty diaper. He tries and follows me and it kinda weirds me out as I have nothing to say to him other then like "Hi, hows it going?" and now I'm even tired of saying that because he comes back in my department way too much. I'm also 8 years older then him which adds to the weirdness. On halloween he came up to me and told me that he liked my cat ears, well thats not weird so I was nice and said "thanks" and was being nice like smiling and stuff and continuing to work. He then leaned in and whispered "Are you into ******?" (I don't know what word he used, I'll never remember it as its not a word I am familiar with) I asked him to repeat it, he did, I still didn't understand what he was asking.... so I asked him to explain. LOOOL He asked me if I was into fantasy dress up?? omg.. lolloooolooooool I don't know what to say to that, I didn't want to hurt his feelings so I just said, "no, this is halloween lol" He went on his way.... ok lately now hes been appearing more frequent and really getting on my nerves. I've been trying to find excuses to leave like go to the freezer or check the items in the oven and stuff where hes not aloud to follow me. I'm not into that stuff, I told him I'm not, I'm not even interested in shooting the breeze with this kid because he smells so awful but I'm too nice to tell him to go away LOL but I really do want him to go away, and now for the past two days hes been following me and asking me "So hows my little Otaku today?" lol omg, I'm gonna look up that word.
...(few minutes later) lol I looked up Otaku, I guess hes trying to call me an animae girl or something??? I don't really know. But I sure don't respond when he calls me that... I don't like it LOL I do want him to go away, I guess me looking like I'm under 18 doesn't help with this.., I don't know what to do, its becomming too frequent and makes me feel uncomfortable at work like when I see him coming from a distance I go hide in the freezer for a minute. I don't know what to do
encounter2: Theres this older guy at work that seems nice and stuff, he came to talk to me one day and tell me that he spoke with my mother. I asked him, 'How did you know she was my mother?' I guess she introduced herself because his description of her had to be her. He saw her work jacket and asked her about her job. So when he was talking to me he told me about how she gave him a website address to apply for a job with that company but he misplaced it and couldn't remember and he would greatly appreciate it if I could get it from her, I said Ok and told him what I thought it might be... maybe he could google it and find out lol. Well, I meant to ask her, I don't see her very often and when I do its not the first thing on my mind when I see her. I saw this guy again and he asked me if I had spoken with my mom, no I hadn't, he was polite and reminded me that he might get laid off from his other job so he would like to apply with this one if he could. So... some time passed, I forgot again lol. He approached me again and asked if I had talked with my mom about this website, lol no I hadn't I forgot, so then he was still polite and asked me to please get this information if I could lol... again I told him what I think the web address is but he didn't seem to think that it was the same as what my mom told him, and I guess he doesnt think that googling a job title or company name will help him find the right web address. I really tried to remember but I forgot again LOL. Its just not on my mind... He approached me again... this time not so nice kinda stern, telling me that his other job is most likely gonna lay him off and that this web address is really gonna help him out, so just so I don't forget, I tell him that I'll call her as soon as my shift is over and ask her, he'd still be working and I could give it to him and be done with this. lol guess what!!! I forgooot!! I completely forgot about it and left the building! Yea I feel bad about it but, lol, this stuff happens. Sooooo...... the next time I saw him off in the distance I immediately remembered and I avoided him all day hoping that I would see my mom before my next shift and get the info from her. I forgot to LOL. SOOOOOOO...... yesterday.... He comes over to my department, I'm packaging turnovers... hes really extra scary and mad, and he tells me that he REALLY NEEDS THIS WEBSITE ADDRESS BECAUSE HE IS GOING TO GET LAID OFF OMG LOL, he was really mad... he talked over me almost like I'm getting scolded, I felt the side of my head being pierced with his glaring eyes... it was extremely awkward. There was alot of silence and alot of him glaring at me in silence waiting for me to come up with something to say, but everytime I was going to say something like "I'm sorry I forgot, I'll really try to remember this time" ...he would talk over me, he told me a long sad story of his other job and the lack of business that they are doing and how its going to affect him... he stared at me in silence for about 2 straight minutes which feels like an eternity when hes like glaring like melting the skin on my face with his lazer beam eyes... lol it was extremely awkward and kind of scary the way he was almost yelling at me for his lack of another job and lack of willingness to use google and lack of looking into other companies for jobs. Its been over 2 months since he first talked with my mom, he can't find a website on his own or other companies to apply to in 2 months? The other lady in my department watched as he glared at me from back in the kitchen and told me how weird she thought it was without me saying anything to her first. Soooo..... I go home that night and actually remembered!! I got a note from my mom with the website address on it, lol and guess what I did... I forgot the note today.... LOOOOL I saw him off in the distance and was scared because he was coming this way so I hid in the back in the storage closet LOOOOL. The other lady that was there when he glared at me yesterday was there again and she helped me hide from him. She told me when the coast was clear, and told me that he stood there waiting for a couple minutes to see if I'd come back, then he got frustraited and asked her if she was the only one working today, lol her response was "On this side of the kitchen yea" So then when it was safe to come out, i started working... I noticed he left his donut bag behind purposefully so that he would have to come back and get it... I felt really scared!! I saw him coming in the distance and I went back in the kitchen and took the back passage to the otherside of the store and went in the freezer down there, just standing in it with nothing to get so I grabbed some random frozen product hoping that it needed to be restocked, because I didn't want to look like I went down there for nothing, so I start to walk back and I see him in the back passage way but he wasn't facing me so I turned and ran around the corner and walked back through the store. omg I felt like I was being hunted down. I got like a sick feeling in my stomach if I had eaten anything I'd probably get sick but I hadn't yet. It was really stressful LOL. So then... LOL he hunted me down and kinda cornered me up against some rolling carts and I just made up a web adress that I think is right... I sure hope its right because I just couldn't tell him I forgot again, its too scary to.... he went on his way.
is this normal behavior?? Should I get mean?? I don't know what to do but its really awkward!!!!! I feel like my behavior is somewhat abnormal too, lol hiding in freezers and closets and things, I'm just not that bold to face scary mad people. My coworker thinks I should tell a manager, but I don't know if thats ok, it just doesn't feel serious enough for that.
I have issues dealing with angry people.... after one of my exes used to tie me to the table or desk and hit me with the belt of a bathrobe and throw objects at me with his rage and anger over life... I just can't deal well with angry people I get scared it brings back flashbacks in my mind when someone gets in my face and talks sternly and loudly its so awkward I almost panic.