I have a conundrum. To be blunt, I consider myself to be very unattractive. I have wanted to bring this up to my therapist for the past few weeks now. However, we've kind of broached the subject before, and at the time her response was (I'm truncating in a way that's going to make her sound harsh but she really isn't) that I have other things to worry about and that I should put it on the back burner while I deal with some other issues in my life.
But I don't really feel like I can let it go. I feel very self-conscious about myself a lot, I often seem to be comparing myself unfavorably against my friends who I think are better-looking than I am, sometimes I feel almost embarrassed to be around them; sometimes it gets to the point that I don't want to go out or do anything. The idea of asking girls out, as you can surmise, becomes rather absurd to me.
But I feel a little ashamed about thinking about this, because my therapist is right when she says I have other things to deal with in my life. (Nothing catastrophic, it's just that it's true there are multiple things I need to do to improve myself.) I feel kind of silly and guilty that I am worrying about my appearance, especially considering that no one in my social circle is nearly as unconfident in themselves. How do I bring this up with my therapist?
But I don't really feel like I can let it go. I feel very self-conscious about myself a lot, I often seem to be comparing myself unfavorably against my friends who I think are better-looking than I am, sometimes I feel almost embarrassed to be around them; sometimes it gets to the point that I don't want to go out or do anything. The idea of asking girls out, as you can surmise, becomes rather absurd to me.
But I feel a little ashamed about thinking about this, because my therapist is right when she says I have other things to deal with in my life. (Nothing catastrophic, it's just that it's true there are multiple things I need to do to improve myself.) I feel kind of silly and guilty that I am worrying about my appearance, especially considering that no one in my social circle is nearly as unconfident in themselves. How do I bring this up with my therapist?