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Thanks Tiina63, as I had suspected, I do think my mum lacks empathy sometimes. Hmmmmm food for thought that. It's no wonder the way I feel I do sometimes! (not that i'm blaming her entirely) but I think I will sit back and think about some of the things she says in future.. thanks for the input :-)

I'm thinking about doing some online gaming, what are the best sorts of online games to join which don't cost a fortune and which aren't too difficult to pick up? Might be a distraction for me

Pensive - pretty much the norm for me nowadays!

The last time I met someone at an airport was last year when I went on holiday. I met some relatives who picked me up to take me to their apartment. When was the last time you were able to get your big toe into your mouth?

I think I have a good sense of humour, and can see the funny side of most things.

I'm hoping I can be happy on my own, sort out the stresses in my life, and have some more realistic aims and goals to work towards. I'm feeling a bit miserable, but posting on here and hoping I can one day learn to take my own advice I'm thinking that I should really go and do the washing up...

Depression is when you are sent as a paramedic to stop someone from throwing themselves off a bridge into a river to die, you feel like holding their hand and jumping right in there with them!

I think it's a balance. Some stress is useful to help motivate us, but too much of it can be overwhelming and soul destroying. If you're going through a bad period of anxiety I think the best thing is to recognise it for what it is and try and cope with it. I'm on anti anxiety meds now as my...

Don't stop telling people on the internet how you really feel, if we can't post on here or talk to each other, then what else is left!! You're right that those people may have not been through the same problems as you, but it's all relative. What if THEY HAVE been through the same or worse as...

Doc I hope you're okay now. Prove to those people that they were WRONG about you. You're just going through a hard time and are feeling very depressed. When you're depressed you don't have clarity of thought! Don't be hard on yourself, congratulate yourself for any small achievement that you...

I've posted something similar to this with my Ventilator syndrome post.. I'm a bit confused now. If someone says to you 'Thank yourself lucky, you could've had it much worse', does that mean that they are invalidating stuff you say when you tell them you're feeling a bit down?

Just wanted to share something which has been drummed into my head about trying to remember that there are some people who are far worse off than you when you're feeling a bit low. It makes me laugh because my mother is always going on about how I could be far worse off than I am now, living in...

Thanks Katerina, I guess what you're saying is about finding a balance - being a better version of yourself but not overdoing it so you come across as an overconfident jerk! I do find these CBT techniques just a bit cringeworthy though - I think i'm a confident person but i'm aware of my...

I could change my disfigurement if I had surgery, which I might consider in the future if I have any spare cash. Until then i'll just have to learn to live with it I guess! At least i'm fortunate that no one gets to see me with my clothes off! ;-)

I agree that there are some people who just won't find a partner. I don't think there's anything wrong with proactively looking if that's what you want and you can cope with rejection along the way. I hate the cliches too, I find them quite insulting. There are many people who got married...

Kolmer it sounds like you've had a lucky escape if she's prepared to dump you via text after a 6 year relationship. You definitely deserve better. And if this is the way she feels, then it's pointless pursuing her. That's providing her reasons are true. And if she's just used that as an...

I would never see settling as being a good option, I feel i've done it in the past and it hasn't done me any favours in the long run. To me, I would rather be single than be in a relationship which is less than the best I could hope for. And I'd hate it if someone felt like they were 'settling'...

Yes I made pancakes with nutella and banana and also lemon juice and sugar. They were delicious! What do you think is the worst chat up line ever?

It doesn't matter if you were the dumper or the dumpee, leaving a toxic relationship is difficult either way - it's like an addiction. What you're suffering from is something called cognitive dissonance. Only with time and continued no contact will you start to feel better. Try to do...

So what does everyone think of this well known and perhaps overused phrase used by counsellors and therapists etc. I've been trying to drum it into my head. So I now pretend i'm happy until it actually happens? Or do I just pretend i'm attractive even if I don't feel it? Someone once told me...