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It's really hard to cross over from what you currently are to what you want to be. It takes practice and it wont happen over night. Start small. Try smiling at people next time you go out? I find that so hard in itself still. In fact I very rarely go out so I don't see many people at all.  I...

Thank you for your replies. :-) I am in a blank head space at the moment, feeling pretty vacant so unsure how best to respond. When I am feeling slightly better and more able to "hear" you, I will re-read the posts and put a better reply on. Thanks for your time though, I appreciate you...

For years I have clung onto the hurt/betrayal/neglect that I faced as a young child growing up - as if it defined me - People would ask who are you/what are you into/where have you come from - I had no identity other than my hurt and pain. My parents were big drinkers, every weekend all they...

I saw this film the other day, Elijah Wood is a creepy looking dude isn't he...I am pretty sure he just did that film just to try get rib of the hobbit typecasting. (As Midnight Sky has said :) ) I really like Lars and the Real Girl and Good Dick. They are brilliant films about loneliness. Also...

Actually I would have to be pedantic and say that isn't true either....some men get better with age (they mature like a fine wine) hello - silver foxes?!?! Phwoar!!! I think to generalise that 24 year olds are more attractive than 40 year olds is a bit harsh to the 40 year olds and quite...

I'm sorry to hear that....can't you go back to see your GP? Usually that kick starts stuff moving if they have it written down on your medical records.

No I don't believe that to be true. Someone can suffer and feel pain just as much at the age of 24 as they could do at the age of 40. Someone at the age of 40 might have gotten used to being alone, or they might not have put themselves in situations to be rejected by as much as the 24 year...

I know the feeling, I'm having a melt down too all of a sudden and I've ended up back on meds. :( Just keep trying is all I can say and know you're not alone! Take care.

Lonesomeloner - when you say you got dumped for no reason - do you really believe this to be true? I am pretty sure whoever dumped you would have had a reason for their actions....whether that reason is more to do with issues with them than with you is another story entirely. People generally...

I cried tonight after having a weird night with my ex last night. We split in May after two years of being together and hadn't seen one another since. Last night we met for a drink, as friends, but did inevitably have some pretty awesome sex and he stayed the night...though sex is all it was. I...

I would seriously try talking to her, if it's not busy when you're in. Ask her how her shift is going, even something mundane about the weather is better than nothing. Do this each time you go in, build rapport, so eventually you'll just start making conversation together normally, then I'd...

Do you think it might be advisable to like post pictures of people attending / facebook before the meet? (So we know who we're looking for?) As obviously being a female I'd want to meet in a public place (no offense....just meeting some people off the internet can be daunting, not that I'm...

Yes that's a good idea!!! Let's do a Manchester meet up for anyone who fancies it? Pre-midlands meet up? :)

Birmingham could be doable, think it's like 3 hours on the train. How long would it take you to get there? Where are you coming from? Oh and I know what you mean about London and the tube!!

I used to feel like that not just on these forums but on others too...it'd be like everyone else seemed really chummy with one another and I felt like an outsider. I realised that this was just my low self esteem and insecurities playing detective and making situations up that probably weren't...

Ooh where abouts? Do you go into Manchester much? I can get a train there in about 45 mins which is just little over the same time it takes me to get to Leeds but for some reason I've always stuck to Leeds.I'd like to get to know Manchester more as I think it's a better city possibly.

Well I'm in Halifax, in between Manchester and Leeds so up north, if it was a London meet there'd have to be a lot of planning etc due to travel and accommodation. Where does everyone else live?

I love them and would probably even buy one if I saw them in a shop :) they're lovely and something to be proud of xx

Sounds interesting. Where/when? I'd be a maybe depending on those two questions. :)

I know exactly what you mean and I also find it hard to keep motivated...one thing that I do is to keep making lists - I'm a bit of an organised nutter so ticking something off a list makes me feel better. I make daily, weekly and monthly goals to try stick to, though I don't manage all of them...