Okay so, I've been friends (on and off) with this girl for 2 years now as we were in high school together. Since then, I haven't seen her for the last 9 months and its really complicated. Sometimes it seems like she really cares about me and then sometimes she couldn't even be bothered.
I've pretty much always been the one to initiate conversation and its always been me who asks her to hang out. I've asked her if she has any issues with me and she said no, despite my falling out with her close friend.
Over the last 9 months, when she has agreed to meet up with me, she stands me up. She texts me just before we're supposed to meet up and most recently, I waited for her and called her half an hour after we were supposed to meet where she picked up and said she was sick. She offered to meet me the following week instead, but when that came too, she said she was still too sick to show up, despite her going to my friend's birthday party the day before.
However, last month was my birthday, and she texted me throughout the night of my party to see how I was going.. We'd had talked for about a month prior constantly, she said she was gonna try really hard to come to my party..
Around that time, she messaged me on Facebook at midnight, asking if I was awake and if she could have my phone number. Since I was asleep and didn't respond, she asked my friend a minute later (he showed me the message and asked if it was okay) if he would give it to her.. Apparently she wanted my number so we could chat and she was going to invite me over to her house soon.
I'm really confused and keep getting mixed signals and I know the friendship really is one-sided but I miss her a lot and not really sure what the problem is. On her 18th (last year), I designed her a birthday card with all her favourite TV show characters on there and made a 'Cheerful Playlist' cd for her.. I drew the art cover too..
However, since I haven't seen her for 9 months she hadn't got it. But then my friend who lives really close by to her, offered to stop by her house and drop it to her. I wrote her a letter due to this, saying I am happy where my life is at the moment but I do miss her, and I'd love to just have a catch up or just a chat (over text or skype) if she didn't want to meet up and what not.. So she received that a few days ago.. She hasn't contacted me since when we were supposed to meet up but she was too ill, and I don't want to keep bugging her and already asked her if she was mad at me but she said no.
Her friend I had a falling out with didn't approve of my friendship with her and caused a lot of trouble between us. This resulted in her ignoring me for a few months before I saw her one last time which was only cause we were doing the same writing course. She only showed up once to that though as she had family troubles and whatnot, and is known to have trouble replying to people, she does manage to see her group of friends a lot though.
Back in 2012, New Year's Eve, we really bonded and shared a lot with each other as well as when we first met.. I just felt really comfortable with her and she said it was easy talking to me as well.
Anyhow, that's just a sum up of our friendship.. Sorry for it being super long and I probably won't keep this up for long as its quite personal and I don't want to upset anyone. I'm just seeking some advice, thank you
I've pretty much always been the one to initiate conversation and its always been me who asks her to hang out. I've asked her if she has any issues with me and she said no, despite my falling out with her close friend.
Over the last 9 months, when she has agreed to meet up with me, she stands me up. She texts me just before we're supposed to meet up and most recently, I waited for her and called her half an hour after we were supposed to meet where she picked up and said she was sick. She offered to meet me the following week instead, but when that came too, she said she was still too sick to show up, despite her going to my friend's birthday party the day before.
However, last month was my birthday, and she texted me throughout the night of my party to see how I was going.. We'd had talked for about a month prior constantly, she said she was gonna try really hard to come to my party..
Around that time, she messaged me on Facebook at midnight, asking if I was awake and if she could have my phone number. Since I was asleep and didn't respond, she asked my friend a minute later (he showed me the message and asked if it was okay) if he would give it to her.. Apparently she wanted my number so we could chat and she was going to invite me over to her house soon.
I'm really confused and keep getting mixed signals and I know the friendship really is one-sided but I miss her a lot and not really sure what the problem is. On her 18th (last year), I designed her a birthday card with all her favourite TV show characters on there and made a 'Cheerful Playlist' cd for her.. I drew the art cover too..
However, since I haven't seen her for 9 months she hadn't got it. But then my friend who lives really close by to her, offered to stop by her house and drop it to her. I wrote her a letter due to this, saying I am happy where my life is at the moment but I do miss her, and I'd love to just have a catch up or just a chat (over text or skype) if she didn't want to meet up and what not.. So she received that a few days ago.. She hasn't contacted me since when we were supposed to meet up but she was too ill, and I don't want to keep bugging her and already asked her if she was mad at me but she said no.
Her friend I had a falling out with didn't approve of my friendship with her and caused a lot of trouble between us. This resulted in her ignoring me for a few months before I saw her one last time which was only cause we were doing the same writing course. She only showed up once to that though as she had family troubles and whatnot, and is known to have trouble replying to people, she does manage to see her group of friends a lot though.
Back in 2012, New Year's Eve, we really bonded and shared a lot with each other as well as when we first met.. I just felt really comfortable with her and she said it was easy talking to me as well.
Anyhow, that's just a sum up of our friendship.. Sorry for it being super long and I probably won't keep this up for long as its quite personal and I don't want to upset anyone. I'm just seeking some advice, thank you