EverythingisBlue
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Hello, everyone. I just joined today and I'm already very thankful I found this forum.
I'm 29 and from USA. In the last 5 years I have lived in 3 different parts of my state. I just moved to a wealthy suburb a year and a half ago with my husband. Problem is, we're not wealthy! lol I was lucky to find a pretty good job within a month and I've been working there since. My husband has not been so lucky. After a year of trying, he couldn't find anything in his field (or anything at all for that matter), and finally got a part-time overnight retail job.
I work 8-5 Mon-Fri, and my husband works every Friday, Sat, and Sun night, along with some weekdays. Basically, we only see each other for an hour a day, if we're lucky. We can't go out and do anything together because our schedules clash so much. The last time we spent an entire day together was in July!!
I only have 2 friends here that I made through work, but they both have other responsibilities where they can't go hang out very often. Occasionally we get together for lunch during work, but when I get home from work the house is quiet and dark and my husband is asleep and it is terribly lonely. Then he wakes up, gets ready and leaves.
The weekends are the worst. The highlight of my weekend used to be going to get groceries, but lately I can barely drag myself out. Last weekend I didn't leave the house all weekend. Sometimes I just break down and cry randomly. When I wake up on a Saturday morning and realize that I have nothing to do and I'm goign to spend another weekend alone, I wonder why I bother getting out of bed. In the beginning I tried to find things to do to entertain myself and tried to "suck it up", but I'm out of ideas!
So basically I'm in a new area, where I feel like I don't belong, with very few friends and I'm almost always alone. When I try to talk to my husband about how lonely I feel, I get no comfort at all. He just views it as this is the way things have to be, so I should just accept it. I can't accept living a life of loneliness and i"m not sure what to do at this point. I feel like life is so short and I'm wasting mine being unhappy.
Anyway, that's my story.
I'm 29 and from USA. In the last 5 years I have lived in 3 different parts of my state. I just moved to a wealthy suburb a year and a half ago with my husband. Problem is, we're not wealthy! lol I was lucky to find a pretty good job within a month and I've been working there since. My husband has not been so lucky. After a year of trying, he couldn't find anything in his field (or anything at all for that matter), and finally got a part-time overnight retail job.
I work 8-5 Mon-Fri, and my husband works every Friday, Sat, and Sun night, along with some weekdays. Basically, we only see each other for an hour a day, if we're lucky. We can't go out and do anything together because our schedules clash so much. The last time we spent an entire day together was in July!!
I only have 2 friends here that I made through work, but they both have other responsibilities where they can't go hang out very often. Occasionally we get together for lunch during work, but when I get home from work the house is quiet and dark and my husband is asleep and it is terribly lonely. Then he wakes up, gets ready and leaves.
The weekends are the worst. The highlight of my weekend used to be going to get groceries, but lately I can barely drag myself out. Last weekend I didn't leave the house all weekend. Sometimes I just break down and cry randomly. When I wake up on a Saturday morning and realize that I have nothing to do and I'm goign to spend another weekend alone, I wonder why I bother getting out of bed. In the beginning I tried to find things to do to entertain myself and tried to "suck it up", but I'm out of ideas!
So basically I'm in a new area, where I feel like I don't belong, with very few friends and I'm almost always alone. When I try to talk to my husband about how lonely I feel, I get no comfort at all. He just views it as this is the way things have to be, so I should just accept it. I can't accept living a life of loneliness and i"m not sure what to do at this point. I feel like life is so short and I'm wasting mine being unhappy.
Anyway, that's my story.