no_resolve
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i am 21, in college and I've been turned down by every girl i've ever liked. For as long as i can remember i've always been told by girls that I'm sweet, funny and easy to talk to. what i don't get is why these same girls always turn me down whenever i ask them out or tell them that i like them. And it's not like i am going up to random girls and asking them out. the girls that turn me down are the ones who have known me long enough to get a chance to know me and what kind of person i am. I am always myself around them, i listen to what they have to say and can hold a steady conversation. But i am not super nice to a girl to the point where they walk over me. i like to challenge a girl. not to the point of fighting with them but things playfully make fun of them and occasionally be somewhat of a jerk. but not to the point of been an a-hole. and they know that. they say they like that's one of the things they like about me.
Just a few days ago i just hung out with a girl I've like for over a month now. and we've been hanging out on a weekly basis for 5-6 hours at a time during that time span. the last time we went out things went almost perfect as we spent 5 hours together. (took her out for ice cream, a long walk, an awesome view of the skyline on NYC and a nice dinner afterward). at the end of the night i told her that i liked her and she turned me down, saying she doesn't like me like that. "you're really sweet and funny and i really spending time with you but...", well you know the rest. she basically tells me the same thing just like all the other girls I've liked. I don't get why they don't wanna be with a guy they actually like spending time with. maybe it's just me. i don't really know what to do. i've always been myself. what bothers me is that these girls know me and still turn me down. i know not every girl will turn you down once in a while, but i didn't think it would be every single one.
i am sometimes shy but never afraid of putting myself out there. i'm 21, never had a GF, never kissed a girl and my confidence takes a big hit with each rejection. I always go after girls who have smarts, substance and personality. each rejection makes me think because i'm actually going after quality girls. is there something that i'm doing wrong?
Just a few days ago i just hung out with a girl I've like for over a month now. and we've been hanging out on a weekly basis for 5-6 hours at a time during that time span. the last time we went out things went almost perfect as we spent 5 hours together. (took her out for ice cream, a long walk, an awesome view of the skyline on NYC and a nice dinner afterward). at the end of the night i told her that i liked her and she turned me down, saying she doesn't like me like that. "you're really sweet and funny and i really spending time with you but...", well you know the rest. she basically tells me the same thing just like all the other girls I've liked. I don't get why they don't wanna be with a guy they actually like spending time with. maybe it's just me. i don't really know what to do. i've always been myself. what bothers me is that these girls know me and still turn me down. i know not every girl will turn you down once in a while, but i didn't think it would be every single one.
i am sometimes shy but never afraid of putting myself out there. i'm 21, never had a GF, never kissed a girl and my confidence takes a big hit with each rejection. I always go after girls who have smarts, substance and personality. each rejection makes me think because i'm actually going after quality girls. is there something that i'm doing wrong?