Hello, I'm new but I need some advice about a date. Here is the situation: I put up an online profile and got a message from a man who sounded nice but not exactly ''my type''. I responded anyway and we had a phone conversation and a date. It was nice enough but I wasn't bowled over.
Now, one thing I didn't like is that he ''improved'' his profile info, adding a few inches to his real height, using two different real names in person and removing 5 years to his age as well as being contradictory on another question. When I asked him about two of these, he kind of brushed it off as unimportant (not so to me).
At the end of the date, he said he wanted to see me again and hopefully, that we would hang out over time, over a long period of time. He invited me to his place for a next date and said we should be at ease with each other within 2 weeks (which I assumed meant he wanted to be sexual quickly rather than not or very much involved with each other within 14 days). He also suggested that he could eventually come to see my parents.
The next day (yesterday), he sent me an email saying he could not stop thinking about me, that he was starting to fall in love, he called me a sweet name and suggested cuddling soon.
I was and am freaked out. I was almost ready to go on another date, to know him more but, because of this and because of the ''little lies'' on his profile, I don't want to see him again. It's too involved, too soon and I don't share his feelings. I want to tell him we're not on the same page and that I'm not going to meet him again. But I get the feeling that I have to choose my words carefully, otherwise, he might possibly be insistant, email me long love letters, or something like that. I am feeling urgent about him going away and am afraid he will stick around.
What do you think I should write him?
Now, one thing I didn't like is that he ''improved'' his profile info, adding a few inches to his real height, using two different real names in person and removing 5 years to his age as well as being contradictory on another question. When I asked him about two of these, he kind of brushed it off as unimportant (not so to me).
At the end of the date, he said he wanted to see me again and hopefully, that we would hang out over time, over a long period of time. He invited me to his place for a next date and said we should be at ease with each other within 2 weeks (which I assumed meant he wanted to be sexual quickly rather than not or very much involved with each other within 14 days). He also suggested that he could eventually come to see my parents.
The next day (yesterday), he sent me an email saying he could not stop thinking about me, that he was starting to fall in love, he called me a sweet name and suggested cuddling soon.
I was and am freaked out. I was almost ready to go on another date, to know him more but, because of this and because of the ''little lies'' on his profile, I don't want to see him again. It's too involved, too soon and I don't share his feelings. I want to tell him we're not on the same page and that I'm not going to meet him again. But I get the feeling that I have to choose my words carefully, otherwise, he might possibly be insistant, email me long love letters, or something like that. I am feeling urgent about him going away and am afraid he will stick around.
What do you think I should write him?