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Lonely in BC
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I'm in shock. You know that feeling you get in the pit of your stomach when something nasty happens- that describes it.
I went down to check on my dock down at the lake and I still can't quite believe what I saw. An area that I've put 6 years of time, energy, and my own cash into vandalized. Trees and bushes that I've nurtured mowed down. The beautiful rock fire pit I'd made knocked apart. Why? So that someone- who I actually thought was a friend of sorts, could "improve" her view of the lake. I'm dumbstruck.
Six years ago my neighbors approached me and indicated there was a spot down at the lake I should consider for a spot to put a dock in. They'd seen how I'd cleaned up the Crown land behind my house (again, at my own expense) of all the junk dumped there over the years and by doing so gave the local kids (mine included) a safer place to play. I walked down to the proposed area with them and almost said no. There had been an old boathouse that burnt down, crap had been dumped there- it was a mess. I got talked into it and I'm glad- was glad, I did, it took me all of that first summer to cart all the junk over the railroad tracks and off to the dump. Since then I encouraged the trees that were there to grow, pulled the weeds that wanted to take over by hand, built the fire pit, and put in a beautiful dock.
Yesterday it was undone. When I asked the individual in question "why?" her response was that I didn't own it (true, but I did get permission to use/enhance it by the local authorities- I was told to leave all native plant and tree growth unmolested which I abided by). When I pointed out she didn't own it either I got told to fresia-off! fresia-off- imagine that. That's how quickly a friendship can end. My neighbors are as furious as me as she "pruned" (that's how she put it) their areas as well (not as severely as mine)- the guy to the left of me has had his spot for 40+ years, this "lady" butchered trees he and his late mother transplanted decades ago.
I was warned by people years ago about befriending this individual- she's a bit.....erratic? kind of describes it. Being me, I gave her the benefit of the doubt but now- wow! When I was told to "fresia-off" I suggested that it might be best if her shadow never darkens my door step again, she screamed something along the lines of "you're an *******, if you can't speak to me like a human being......" then slammed the door in my face. I've helped this neighbor, lent her and her guy tools, tried to be encouraging when she's depressed (always on an emotional rollercoaster) and I get fresia-off and a door slammed in my face.
The neighbors have asked what I'm going to do. I honestly don't know. My instinct is to start repairing the damage but if it happens again.......
Just as I'm coming out of my shell regarding people and relationships this happens.
Dam!
I went down to check on my dock down at the lake and I still can't quite believe what I saw. An area that I've put 6 years of time, energy, and my own cash into vandalized. Trees and bushes that I've nurtured mowed down. The beautiful rock fire pit I'd made knocked apart. Why? So that someone- who I actually thought was a friend of sorts, could "improve" her view of the lake. I'm dumbstruck.
Six years ago my neighbors approached me and indicated there was a spot down at the lake I should consider for a spot to put a dock in. They'd seen how I'd cleaned up the Crown land behind my house (again, at my own expense) of all the junk dumped there over the years and by doing so gave the local kids (mine included) a safer place to play. I walked down to the proposed area with them and almost said no. There had been an old boathouse that burnt down, crap had been dumped there- it was a mess. I got talked into it and I'm glad- was glad, I did, it took me all of that first summer to cart all the junk over the railroad tracks and off to the dump. Since then I encouraged the trees that were there to grow, pulled the weeds that wanted to take over by hand, built the fire pit, and put in a beautiful dock.
Yesterday it was undone. When I asked the individual in question "why?" her response was that I didn't own it (true, but I did get permission to use/enhance it by the local authorities- I was told to leave all native plant and tree growth unmolested which I abided by). When I pointed out she didn't own it either I got told to fresia-off! fresia-off- imagine that. That's how quickly a friendship can end. My neighbors are as furious as me as she "pruned" (that's how she put it) their areas as well (not as severely as mine)- the guy to the left of me has had his spot for 40+ years, this "lady" butchered trees he and his late mother transplanted decades ago.
I was warned by people years ago about befriending this individual- she's a bit.....erratic? kind of describes it. Being me, I gave her the benefit of the doubt but now- wow! When I was told to "fresia-off" I suggested that it might be best if her shadow never darkens my door step again, she screamed something along the lines of "you're an *******, if you can't speak to me like a human being......" then slammed the door in my face. I've helped this neighbor, lent her and her guy tools, tried to be encouraging when she's depressed (always on an emotional rollercoaster) and I get fresia-off and a door slammed in my face.
The neighbors have asked what I'm going to do. I honestly don't know. My instinct is to start repairing the damage but if it happens again.......
Just as I'm coming out of my shell regarding people and relationships this happens.
Dam!
