Every long term relationships I've had..I was asked out by women.
I've dated or asked women out before but didn't persuit those relationships further.
The last time I dated...I had a sponsor cheering me on in the dating process.
He actaully made me date becuase he got tired of my whining to him all the time.
He gave me 6 months to work through a break up I was going through.
I didn't get dates from the first 5 -6 women i asked out...and the rejections kind of
stopped me in my tracks...having my sponsor cheerring me on and listening to me
after rejections or getting stood up...helped me through that process.
Becuase I lack the self motivations to pull myself out of rejections.
Plus a bunch of other people judging me in the process.
saying a bouch of crap or attacking my charector of being a player.
I had alot of internal conflicts of guilt and worrying about what other people thought of me.
It made it all more the difficult for me to approch a woman and get to know her.
In a way it was a goal we set for myself. Yet there wan't a time line.
It was more of me being persistance of getting back up and asking girls out again and again
until I got a date and my sponsor motivating me.
I actaully started dating 5-6 women at the sametime after 3-4 months from the moment I
first asked a girl out. My sponsor then again had to step in...becuase I lacked the motivations
of just having a relationship with 1 girl ..fresia...fresia..fresia
I was in football in HS and I was also in the military...I understand the concept of coaching.
My coach and drill sargent coach/motivate me into doing things I thought I couldn't do.
My sponsor is bascailly a life's coach.
I'm also working on self motivations...but it dosn't seem to stick in certain area of my life.
I'm a musician...I know I'm capiable of self discipline or selfmotivations...but having a coach cheering
me on has better results.
Because my sponsor would just tell me striaght up to go ask a girl out that i didn't know, especially the
knock out babes.
I'm my own worst enemy..I'll talk myself out of doing things to get what i want and not give myself a chance.
My sponsor was firm but not adbrasive. He'll would talk me into asking a girl out oneway or the other.
no matter what i mood was. It simply became a numbers or percentage game. There's wasn't any
magic to it.
The magic was that I had faith. I belive in a Higher Power to give me couage and strength.
Evidently my sponsor couldn't hold my hands while i approch a woman.
I simply belive my Higher power was also cheering me on and giving me power to ask a girl out...instead
of myself saying "NO i caN'T". And my Higher power took my fears of rejections away as I'm interacting
with a woman...and whatever outcome is in God's hand.
So, if i got rejected or felt like i got rejected...i didn't take it so personally. I simply did my part.
Then I could take the courage to call the women..Most of the time they were bussy or whatever.
Then a month later..i simply had 4-5 women calling me becuase I had asked so many women out.
The samething happened to me when seeking employment...though.
I turned in 100s of applications and didn't get any calls from employers for months..
But after I a got hired on to a job. Months later, I had 4-5 companies offering me employment.
I was starving. I went looking for work everyday
I guess you have to be straving for love to be self-motivated to find a partner too.
I was asking 4-5 women out per week or when ever the opportunity arrived.
My last GF asked me out simply becuase i was putting myself out there and made myself avalible
and approchable...I was already in dating someone.
Lmao...I remember my sponsor asking me to go pray in front of a Saint Fraincis statue in a court yard of a church.
He told me...to ask for anything that I want from my heart....Of course i wanted a beauitful woman or GF.
I made my prayer to Saint Francis and my prayer was granted. (I don't go to church btw.lol)
Faith without works is dead...however.
