Wanderer145
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I have only ever had one serious relationship that lasted a year... and I have never been in the position of seeing someone or having the odd small relationship here and there.
I have begun to think after my 3rd year of being single and, that means not seeing anyone or anything like that as in completely alone, that I may end up single and in my 30s or 40s. It's a horrible fear and I want to make sure that even if I ever got to that place 10 years from now single or something that I'd survive it.
What is it that I place so much importance on another person? I have done so much the last year to be more social to go out and explore and see things not for anyone else but me. Maybe its the solitude which has prevented me from meeting people it might be my inability to keep friends, thats its so ingrained in my life that I don't even know where to begin to meet someone.
I also know its wrong but being in your mid 20s and watching many people you know get engaged when I can't even get a date going here shouldn't be affecting me...but sometimes it does and I don't even want to get married its more of the companionship thing.
So I guess the question is, is it a matter of changing your outlook, attitudes and being more sociable that will change this way of thinking and actually make steps towards resolving this fear? What are your thoughts on the possibility of being single for your whole life?
I have begun to think after my 3rd year of being single and, that means not seeing anyone or anything like that as in completely alone, that I may end up single and in my 30s or 40s. It's a horrible fear and I want to make sure that even if I ever got to that place 10 years from now single or something that I'd survive it.
What is it that I place so much importance on another person? I have done so much the last year to be more social to go out and explore and see things not for anyone else but me. Maybe its the solitude which has prevented me from meeting people it might be my inability to keep friends, thats its so ingrained in my life that I don't even know where to begin to meet someone.
I also know its wrong but being in your mid 20s and watching many people you know get engaged when I can't even get a date going here shouldn't be affecting me...but sometimes it does and I don't even want to get married its more of the companionship thing.
So I guess the question is, is it a matter of changing your outlook, attitudes and being more sociable that will change this way of thinking and actually make steps towards resolving this fear? What are your thoughts on the possibility of being single for your whole life?